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5 Ways To Boost Your Self Esteem

Self esteem is not a hot and sexy topic. Not even close. I know people don’t love to talk about their self esteem in front of others. But I’m passionate about it.

Self esteem is defined as confidence in one’s own worth or abilities. Have you ever noticed how prevalent low self esteem is among the highly sensitive population? I have. I have also grown to understand there is a lot we can do to change that. Once we become comfortable in our skin, our self esteem can soar.

You see, I have experienced both sides of this spectrum. I used to have low self esteem and all the accompanying characteristics. Then one day I began to ask myself…why. Why did I feel this way? This one question inspired over 10 years of studying low self esteem and strategies to increase it. It consistently remained a main goal for me to focus on over the years. My increased esteem has changed my life in ways I could have never imagined. People responded to it. Situations responded to it. Life responded to it. My relationships improved (or ended), my opportunities multiplied and my joy and inner peace grew.

Most people don’t typically think about self esteem. It’s not usually on their radar. But what a role it plays in our lives. We wear low self esteem on us like a garment that everybody can see. I think it’s time we pay attention to it. So let’s start now.

The 5 Quickest Ways To Recognize Your Worth

This does take a bit of practice, but once you implement these strategies, you will instantly begin to notice changes in your life.

  1. Accept thoughts, emotions, and sensations as they are. Do not judge them, they are neutral and do not define who we are. They rise up within us and can be released through the body and mind. They are fleeting in nature and can also be changed.
  2. Eliminate “should” from your vocabulary. “Should” comes from a place of judgement. Examine your beliefs, especially around your “shoulds.” Question them. What happens when you turn your “shoulds” into “could’s?” Does it open up other options or encourage less judgement?
  3. Do not rely on other people to give you your sense of worth. They will inevitably disappoint. We have to internalize our power and make ourselves the only wielder of it. No label, position, or relationship can give us worth. Those are external things. We have to ensure that if something or someone is removed from our lives, our esteem can remain intact.
  4. Forgive. We need to forgive ourselves for our past wrongdoings. Shame, regret, and guilt sabotage our self esteem and worth. We often find it easier to forgive others, but we must apply this compassion to ourselves as well.
  5. Take stock of your talents. Everybody has a gift or calling in this world. In fact, each of us have many different abilities that help others. We must identify these. If we are unsure of what these abilities are, start small. What small things are we good at? Enjoy? In what ways do we make other people’s life better? Celebrate these, they are the very things that make us feel worthy.

Implementing Self Esteem Strategies

These 5 strategies are simple, however, following them will take mindfulness and perseverance. I assure you, all the effort will be worth it when you start to live with inner calm and contentment on a daily basis. This new found self worth will show up in your relationships, career, and new opportunities and people that you will attract. Remember, like attracts like. A healthy and secure individual will attract other healthy and confident individuals.

A word of warning for those working on their self esteem. People in your life who have low self esteem will begin to take notice. They may become threatened and uncomfortable with your progress towards self acceptance. It is important that you don’t let this bring you down. Be mindful of people who are unsupportive or think you are becoming full of yourself. There is a big difference between arrogance and healthy self esteem. You can be a shining example to them by revealing what healthy self esteem looks like. They can see the positive effects it has in all areas of life. Remember, high self esteem means being comfortable with who we are, quirks and faults included. It recognizes our abilities and strengths, and knows the value and worth they provide in this world. It is very common to experience backlash from others when we make big strides in our personal growth, especially in co-dependent relationships. We must be prepared to cut loose the people that do not support us in our emotional growth. If it’s not appropriate to end the relationship, we can hold awareness of our personal issues versus theirs. Some people may in fact be supportive and encouraging, and use your growth as inspiration for their own. These are the people we want to keep close.

About Nicole Taffs

My name is Nicole Taffs and I am a highly sensitive person. I started TheSensitiveLife blog because I felt a deep need to share the knowledge that I have acquired and studied over the years. As my knowledge of sensitivity grew, so did my abilities and confidence. I began to see and experience all the positives that come from being highly sensitive. I want to share my struggles as well as my knowledge on how to turn our sensitivities into advantages. I am also certified in holistic nutrition, reflexology and reiki. TheSensitiveLife Twitter

2 Comments

  1. carlos on May 9, 2016 at 2:14 pm

    I have to agree with every word of this , i grew up with low self esteem, very low, and spent ages on confidence building exercises, throwing myself out of planes, travelling the world, etc, then a few years ago i realised there is a big difference between confidence and self esteem. I stopped one day , looked at myself and realised i was a decent human being, i am kind, helpful with no bad (or illegal) bad habits, i don’t even tread on ants. then i realised its other people (usually the ones with low self esteem) who tell you you’re crap, so i just started ignoring them and saying to myself, ‘I’m good enough as i am’ and almost over night i just felt great from the inside outward. Most of my friends and some family dropped away after they realised i was not moving from this new position. why? because a lot of people want someone around to project their crap onto, and you can not project onto someone with high self esteem.

  2. Nicole Taffs Hollingshead on May 9, 2016 at 5:22 pm

    Thank you Carlos for sharing your story. It is so empowering to feel good from the inside out! I’m glad you resonated with this 🙂

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