Haven’t we all met the person who never gets over it?  The person with a grudge for everyone else to pay their whole life?  The person who is always pulling teeth to get their way?

For thousands of years, human beings have been invested in a vengeful and controlling way of life, with seriously painful ways of treating each other.  When will it stop? When do we change it? Sounds simple, but it is easier said than done.

Letting Go Is A Process

Letting go isn’t an event; it’s a process.

It is not really a mental switch that you pull or can turn off.  Some people think letting go is a form of abdication.  It isn’t.  It is more a way of giving up control so that you can stop forcing the world to be the way you want it to be. The less you strong arm the world into “your way” the more you are open to all the world has to offer.

Letting Go Feels Better

Letting go means you are there for the world. Letting go is generous.

It comes from a kinder place, a place of deeper regard for yourself and others. It comes from a place that is grounded in an appreciation for the challenges of life for all of us.

Life always was and always will be short and imperfect.  That is true for me, you and the other 7 billion people on the planet. It is true for all life forms. We are the only life form that seems to stomp around the planet trying to make someone pay for the arrangement. Unfortunately, the person or persons that we are trying to get to pay have no more control over the arrangement that you or I.

Letting Go Means Making The Best Of It

So how can someone else offer us security when they don’t have it or can’t get it either? How can someone offer us immortality when they don’t have it, won’t have it and get get it? Why do we persist in thinking that the arrangement is different for us than someone else?  Or why do we insist that it should be?

We all want a joyful and secure life, and that is fine, but we cannot get there at someone else’s expense.  And that is the crux of the problem. We can only get joy and security by making the best of it, but being a part of the ongoing creation of life. We can’t get there by pulling teeth from everyone around us to extract a comfortable arrangement that suits only us. Once we include the well-being of the rest of the world in our agenda, there is no longer any need to pull teeth.

About Maria Hill

Maria Hill is the founder of Sensitive Evolution. She is the author of The Emerging Sensitive: A Guide For Finding Your Place In The World. In addition, she has created the immersive Emerging Sensitive Program of "sensory processing yoga" using frameworks to help sensitive people master their sensitivity and turn it into the asset it can be. She also offers the Emerging Sensitive Movie Club focused on movies and discussions about living in the world as a sensitive person and navigating the challenging cultural shifts of our times. She is a longtime meditator, reiki master, student of alternative health and Ayurveda. Maria is also an abstract painter whose portfolio can be found at Infinite Shape and also very interested in animal and human rights and the environment.