Is the amount of pleasure in our lives an indication of our worth?  Is the amount of pleasure in our lives proof of our character and goodness? Can pleasure be addictive? The Problem Of Pleasure As A Measurement Tool Obviously there is nothing wrong with pleasure.  Who doesn’t want pleasure in their lives? We all want…

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I like a real conversation. I do not like a faux conversation. I do not like pretend conversations. I do not like manipulative conversations. It can be quiet around me. What Is A Real Conversation, Anyway? It probably sounds silly and perhaps a little whiney – but what is a real conversation? It may be…

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Do naysayers drive you up the wall? Highly sensitive people can have difficulty with naysayers. Particularly if they consider themselves wiser than the naysayers – which, frankly, can be quite often. Some people are habitually negative. Sensitive people may have difficulty with those who are habitually negative because they have the capacity for and access…

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Sometimes, it can feel like we can’t even see the underlying problems that come with emotional patterns we play out as HSPs. It can feel like we are doing our best but then bashing our heads against the same problem over and over again. Maybe, as an HSP, our identity is too tightly woven with…

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I suspect that our fixation on the “bad” is a habit left over from our ancient past.”Bad” is a very problematic word.  Mostly because it is used to cover so much territory. It is too ambiguous to say much but definitely carries intent with it. “Bad” can drive social behavior and also social consequences. “Bad”…

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Outsiders have been shunned by many societies for a long time. They have a special value for their cultures that is often unrecognized and overlooked. Outsiders are the guardians of authenticity. Outsiders And Authenticity Outsiders live on the edge in a way which provides them with a particular vantage point on life. They tend to…

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Do you have difficulty handling differences? All of us do to a degree. For highly sensitive people, however, differences can seem dangerous because we have usually experienced so much invalidation that we can become afraid of differences. I know I have. So what can we do? Why Differences Become A Problem Differences become a problem…

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Learning to stop absorbing other people’s energies could be the biggest challenge facing highly sensitive people and empaths. We easily feel what other people feel, whether it is a family member, the grocery store clerk, a co-worker, or a stranger. Going through our day to day life requires a certain awareness in order to distinguish…

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  If we took a survey of HSPs, how many would say they are lonely?  Loneliness is not the same as being alone. Being alone and enjoying it come from our full engagement with life.  Loneliness is something else. Loneliness often feels like we have been graded and found wanting.  It feels like a suffocating…

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Ghosting is a relatively new term that is applied primarily to dating. However, it is applicable to many areas of life including families. Ghosting is actually a complex subject which means it can be easy to oversimplify it. This is the Urban Dictionary definition: The act of suddenly ceasing all communication with someone the subject is…

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