Why do people demonize each other? During the difficult times we are living in, not just because of COVID-19 but also because we are going through necessary and long avoided change, people are projecting their pain and fears onto each other. We humans have long been challenged by our vulnerabilities, real and imagined. Fear is…

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Highly sensitive people have many ways of handling their nature and the overwhelm that they experience. Being different means that relationships are often difficult for us. We often feel at a disadvantage in relationships feeling one down because we feel disrespected. There are many reasons for this. Our compassionate non-competitive natures seek mutuality in a…

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Much has been written about criticism and the inner critic. So why another article? It seems to me that we take criticism for granted as an OK thing to do. Perhaps it is our consumer culture run amok. Isn’t complaining how you get something done? Maybe to some but I think we need a rethink…

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Do you ever feel like stress is conquering you especially now with the COVID pandemic? Do you ever feel hounded by one stressful situation after another given the many major issues we are confronted with daily? Does stress take over your life and make you feel out of control? Does managing stress seem impossible? Unfortunately,…

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canary in the coal mine

In his book Thrive!, which discusses the gifts and challenges of highly sensitive people, Dr. Tracy M. Cooper talks about his research on the trait of sensory processing sensitivity. What interested me most were the stories and real-life experiences of fellow HSPs. They helped to draw a picture of how HSPs as a population might…

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monkey off your back

You know the feeling… You are bone weary. You are not sure that you can move. You look at your limbs like they do not belong to you and they have no interest in doing what you want. Your energy is on strike and you can not afford it. We have all felt this way. It has…

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Self sacrifice is very hard to escape. It is so conditioned into us that whether you are an HSP or non-HSP doesn’t matter. You are subject to the expectation. Self sacrifice carried to an extreme will make you sick, emotionally and physically. Why is self-sacrifice such a problem? Self-Sacrifice Solves A Lot Of Problems Self…

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If you are alive, you have met controlling people. Controlling people can drive anyone crazy, but If you are a highly sensitive person, you may find the effect of controlling very difficult to live with. Controlling people can certainly have that effect on me. Controlling people will probably not understand why their behavior is problematic…

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Last year, I went to India after two years of living here in the United States. This is the first time that I have stayed anywhere other than in India, and this shift of living in a new country has also shifted my perspective in many ways. One of these is the way in which…

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Generosity is something we all want and often struggle with. Why is that? Ambivalence About Generosity We tend to respond to generosity with warmth, happiness and joy. We also naturally respond to stinginess with repulsion, hurt and fear. Of course negative experiences can cause us to have more complicated feelings. Generosity is loaded with ideas…

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