It’s two days before Halloween as my wife and I head to our favorite Italian restaurant in the city. Entering the foyer of the restaurant, I notice a message written on the chalkboard listing the night’s specials. In addition to mussels with plenty of garlic and Venetian zuppa de peoci soup, a psychic is also…

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  Have you felt your energy go down when someone enters the room? Are there certain people that you avoid – perhaps even family members – because you feel bad when you are around them? Meet The Energy Vampires! When we think of vampires, Halloween often comes to mind. However, these vampires never go off…

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I like harmony. I suspect that many HSPs do. Harmony to me is important because at its best it tells us that we are making effective choices. At its worst, we are keeping a destructive peace. Which is operating in your life? Why Is Harmony So Elusive? I have often wondered why harmony is so…

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Negativity is not what you think. Negativity is often thought to be a personal character trait. There is some truth to that but it is so much more. What Is Negativity? According to the Your Dictionary, negativity,  at least in a social or decision making sense, is defined as follows: a word, affix, phrase, etc.…

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Is the amount of pleasure in our lives an indication of our worth?  Is the amount of pleasure in our lives proof of our character and goodness? Can pleasure be addictive? The Problem Of Pleasure As A Measurement Tool Obviously there is nothing wrong with pleasure.  Who doesn’t want pleasure in their lives? We all want…

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Do naysayers drive you up the wall? Highly sensitive people can have difficulty with naysayers. Particularly if they consider themselves wiser than the naysayers – which, frankly, can be quite often. Some people are habitually negative. Sensitive people may have difficulty with those who are habitually negative because they have the capacity for and access…

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Sometimes, it can feel like we can’t even see the underlying problems that come with emotional patterns we play out as HSPs. It can feel like we are doing our best but then bashing our heads against the same problem over and over again. Maybe, as an HSP, our identity is too tightly woven with…

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I suspect that our fixation on the “bad” is a habit left over from our ancient past.”Bad” is a very problematic word.  Mostly because it is used to cover so much territory. It is too ambiguous to say much but definitely carries intent with it. “Bad” can drive social behavior and also social consequences. “Bad”…

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Do you have difficulty handling differences? All of us do to a degree. For highly sensitive people, however, differences can seem dangerous because we have usually experienced so much invalidation that we can become afraid of differences. I know I have. So what can we do? Why Differences Become A Problem Differences become a problem…

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