Social Problems
Race, Culture and HSPs: “Black People Don’t Do Therapy”
I am no doubt an HSP. I’ve read Elaine Aron’s wonderful and eye-opening books, I’ve taken the quizzes in the workbooks and I’ve been greatly helped by much of the advice given on HSP websites and by knowing that I’m not alone. And like very many HSPs I’ve suffered bouts of depression and very high…
Read MoreThe Loneliness Problem
Photo by Matthew Henry on Unsplash If we took a survey of HSPs, how many would say they are lonely? Loneliness is not the same as being alone. Being alone and enjoying it come from our full engagement with life. Loneliness is something else. Loneliness often feels like we have been graded and found wanting.…
Read MoreCreating Harmony: When Not To Try And Make It Work
Photo by Daniel Norin on Unsplash I like harmony. I suspect that many HSPs do. Harmony to me is important because at its best it tells us that we are making effective choices. At its worst, we are keeping a destructive peace. Which is operating in your life? Why Is Harmony So Elusive? I have…
Read MoreWorkplace Bullying: A Survival Guide
Unfortunately, difficult economic conditions can increase the negative behaviors that people will tolerate in order to keep their jobs. If you ever find yourself the target of workplace bullying, it is important to have strategies to safeguard your emotional and physical well-being. If You Experience Workplace Bullying If you are being bullied at work: Don’t…
Read MoreIs Criticism Getting You Down? 7 Ways To Minimize Its Harm
Photo by Jeremy Wong on Unsplash Does it ever seem relentless? The complaining? The criticism? The attacking? Do you ever feel like throwing your hands up in despair? Do you ever feel like giving up? To be honest, there have been times when I have felt that way. Well, I am here to tell you: DON’T DESPAIR!…
Read MoreTime Issues For Highly Sensitive People
Hurry up! Hurry up! Do you ever feel that many people around you are too quick and too impatient? I know that I do. It’s a weird problem, because as slow as HSPs may seem to non-HSPs, non-HSPs seem superficial to HSPs. It can be a challenge to handle it. Time Issues: A Conflict For…
Read More4 Ways To Stop Absorbing Other People’s Energies
Learning to stop absorbing other people’s energies could be the biggest challenge facing highly sensitive people and empaths. We easily feel what other people feel, whether it is a family member, the grocery store clerk, a co-worker, or a stranger. Going through our day to day life requires a certain awareness in order to distinguish…
Read MoreThose Energy Thieves: How Overstimulation Hurts HSPs
Being a highly sensitive person can feel like you are living in a world that is too loud all of the time. What do you do about raw nerves and nervous exhaustion? Noticing The Energy Thieves I call them energy thieves – all the demands for our attention that are unnecessary, counterproductive and unimportant. Unfortunately,…
Read MoreSurprise Anxiety Relief For Sensitive People
I love stories. They often take us by the hand and point out something obvious, something we couldn’t see just because we were so close to it. This time, I want to talk about a true story shared by the great psychologist Rollo May. It appears in his book The Courage to Create and talks…
Read MoreWhy We Demonize Each Other
Why do people demonize each other? During the difficult times we are living in, not just because of COVID-19 but also because we are going through necessary and long avoided change, people are projecting their pain and fears onto each other. We humans have long been challenged by our vulnerabilities, real and imagined. Fear is…
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