Is the amount of pleasure in our lives an indication of our worth?  Is the amount of pleasure in our lives proof of our character and goodness? Can pleasure be addictive? The Problem Of Pleasure As A Measurement Tool Obviously there is nothing wrong with pleasure.  Who doesn’t want pleasure in their lives? We all want…

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Recently, I read the book Belonging by Toko-pa Turner. I think I turned to it because I wasn’t feeling a sense of belonging in my own life, and sometimes like books do, it exerted a kind of magical pull on me. In it, she talked about so many things that I am strongly attracted to,…

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identity, highly sensitive person, highly sensitive people

For sensitive people, there has been a feeling of something missing for a long time, that somehow we were missing a piece of a puzzle. That missing understanding was provided by the discovery of the trait of sensory processing sensitivity by Dr. Elaine Aron. Our sensitivity is a biologically based difference which explains why we…

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Do naysayers drive you up the wall? Highly sensitive people can have difficulty with naysayers. Particularly if they consider themselves wiser than the naysayers – which, frankly, can be quite often. Some people are habitually negative. Sensitive people may have difficulty with those who are habitually negative because they have the capacity for and access…

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Sometimes, it can feel like we can’t even see the underlying problems that come with emotional patterns we play out as HSPs. It can feel like we are doing our best but then bashing our heads against the same problem over and over again. Maybe, as an HSP, our identity is too tightly woven with…

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I suspect that our fixation on the “bad” is a habit left over from our ancient past.”Bad” is a very problematic word.  Mostly because it is used to cover so much territory. It is too ambiguous to say much but definitely carries intent with it. “Bad” can drive social behavior and also social consequences. “Bad”…

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Being a sensitive person means that you come into contact with the illusion of autonomy all the time. For a long time human culture – especially Western culture – has promoted autonomy as an important goal for individuals and societies. The goal of autonomy has been a social answer to the issues created by the…

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Outsiders have been shunned by many societies for a long time. They have a special value for their cultures that is often unrecognized and overlooked. Outsiders are the guardians of authenticity. Outsiders And Authenticity Outsiders live on the edge in a way which provides them with a particular vantage point on life. They tend to…

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Being in one’s comfort zone or not seems to be a marker of all sorts of wonderful traits including creativity and progressiveness. I can even be a path to success and wealth! I consider myself a creative person. However, I find many ideas about comfort zones, and getting out of them, to have very little…

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From the beginning of time, there have been outsiders. Who Are Outsiders? Outsiders are different from everyone else in some way. They are a special group of people who have developed skills and often different cultural models and ideas that put them in a different place compared to the other people around them. If Einstein…

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