Are your numbing your sensitivity? I do sometimes. As I stood in line waiting to order my cup of coffee, I reached for my phone in my purse. You know, just in case there were any new updates within the last 5 minutes since the last time I checked it. I didn’t feel the need…

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anxiety

I love stories. They often take us by the hand and point out something obvious, something we couldn’t see just because we were so close to it. This time, I want to talk about a true story shared by the great psychologist Rollo May. It appears in his book The Courage to Create and talks…

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canary in the coal mine

In his book Thrive!, which discusses the gifts and challenges of highly sensitive people, Dr. Tracy M. Cooper talks about his research on the trait of sensory processing sensitivity. What interested me most were the stories and real-life experiences of fellow HSPs. They helped to draw a picture of how HSPs as a population might…

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what is empath

As someone who started identifying with the word empath some years ago, I have thought lately of how it is simply a catch-all term for different kinds of sensitivities. All people who use the word empath for themselves do not have their empathic antennas out in exactly the same way. They are not exactly like…

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Listen to your fatigue. Exhaustion is an important message from our bodies, emotions, and spirits. Western thinking and cultural practices treat fatigue, at best, as an inconvenience. Such thinking is a mistake and particularly problematic for highly sensitive people. What Fatigue Does For Us All living things need renewal to be healthy.  If we do…

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Self sacrifice is very hard to escape. It is so conditioned into us that whether you are an HSP or non-HSP doesn’t matter. You are subject to the expectation. Self sacrifice carried to an extreme will make you sick, emotionally and physically. Why is self-sacrifice such a problem? Self-Sacrifice Solves A Lot Of Problems Self…

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Anger is an interesting subject in my opinion. I grew up with narcissistic parents. They were angry a lot. I always found it puzzling because they would become hostile about the littlest things and their feelings were always more important than everyone else’s, of course. And so this sensitive person was off and running trying…

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As a sensitive person, I like to be of service and, in my experience, most sensitive people are the same way. Service is a wonderful thing. It enriches our lives and the lives of others. For sensitive people, being of service has pitfalls, however.  Because of our natural capacity to be sensitive to nuance and…

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Do you sometimes take the easy way out? We all do. Have you ever wondered why that is? Have you ever wondered what to do about it? Why Do We Take The Easy Way Out So here’s the deal. We humans all like pleasure. There is nothing wrong with that. We also need to be…

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