For much of my working life (and I’m in my 50s, so it’s been a while), I struggled with the demands of the “normal” 40-hour work week. Working the way our society seemed to insist I work in order make a living made me feel like I was dying. I needed more peace, more depth,…

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I like a real conversation. I do not like a faux conversation. I do not like pretend conversations. I do not like manipulative conversations. It can be quiet around me. What Is A Real Conversation, Anyway? It probably sounds silly and perhaps a little whiney – but what is a real conversation? It may be…

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To be an outsider is not an easy task. It is a special role that has great potential for personal transformation. Who Is The Outsider? The outsider is the person who departs their existing cultural home for a new unknown destination. People do not become outsiders accidentally. It is a path that is deliberately chosen…

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Between extremes of competition, world overpopulation, and ranking systems, people who are marginalized struggle to survive. If you are sensitive, you may feel like one of those people who is largely invisible to the world as if you have been erased. The Experience Of Feeling Erased Being marginalized means a number of different things and…

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It’s been a few short months since my book The Empath’s Journey was released. It’s a memoir of rediscovering what the words “too sensitive” mean in my own life and is set against the backdrop of the first few years after I relocated from India to the United States.   Writing books has always been…

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parents

My sister feels big feelings.  I didn’t know that at first. At first I thought she was just sad and mad all the time. At first I thought I did something wrong when I was mad. At first I thought she was always doing something wrong. At least that’s how it seemed. My parents loved…

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Do you ever wish you could time travel back to an era that was simpler, slower and more HSP friendly?  Although I appreciate many of the benefits of living in this age, I often long for the time of my childhood when I could easily spend an entire day reading on the couch without interruption…

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sensitive

I grew up thinking there was something terribly wrong with me. The world felt deafening to me. Like the volume on life was turned all the way up, all the time. I rarely felt safe or calm, it was as though I had no skin… everything hit me right to the core. I desperately wanted…

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boundaries

For a long time, just like other sensitive people, I searched for ways to make myself feel less. Everyone else thought I shouldn’t be so affected by the world, that it wasn’t normal. And believing that it was abnormal to feel so much, I tried to contain it.  Experiments With Self-Protection I tried to push…

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burdened

Our childhood experience, whether consciously or unconsciously, can shape our lives today. It affects our personalities, ways of relating to others and even levels of career success.  The Burden Of Emotional Parentification  We all play a particular role in our family system. Some of us are the ‘golden boys/ girls’, some of us are crowned…

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