I like a real conversation. I do not like a faux conversation. I do not like pretend conversations. I do not like manipulative conversations. It can be quiet around me. What Is A Real Conversation, Anyway? It probably sounds silly and perhaps a little whiney – but what is a real conversation? It may be…

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For much of my working life (and I’m in my 50s, so it’s been a while), I struggled with the demands of the “normal” 40-hour work week. Working the way our society seemed to insist I work in order make a living made me feel like I was dying. I needed more peace, more depth,…

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As a sensitive person I struggled for many years (decades) to handle all of the energy and information I encountered on a daily basis. At a young age I was overwhelmed with all of the energy conflicts, expectations, and demands of the world, many of which did not make sense to me. I knew I…

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Do naysayers drive you up the wall? Highly sensitive people can have difficulty with naysayers. Particularly if they consider themselves wiser than the naysayers – which, frankly, can be quite often. Some people are habitually negative. Sensitive people may have difficulty with those who are habitually negative because they have the capacity for and access…

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Sometimes, it can feel like we can’t even see the underlying problems that come with emotional patterns we play out as HSPs. It can feel like we are doing our best but then bashing our heads against the same problem over and over again. Maybe, as an HSP, our identity is too tightly woven with…

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  If we took a survey of HSPs, how many would say they are lonely?  Loneliness is not the same as being alone. Being alone and enjoying it come from our full engagement with life.  Loneliness is something else. Loneliness often feels like we have been graded and found wanting.  It feels like a suffocating…

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A few months back, my husband and I had a little conversation in which we discussed swapping and trying out each other’s interests. Mine is painting. His is building puzzles, of the 3,000 to 5,000 pieces kind. Before he met me, my husband didn’t have any particular interest in art. But in our time together…

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Why is self-care so hard?  Whenever I see a sleeping cat, I am struck by how unconflicted they are about living each moment, about being here and their deservingness. Receiving simply is not an issue for them. Humans make the whole business of receiving about power.  So receiving inevitably comes with some sort of baggage…

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Between extremes of competition, world overpopulation, and ranking systems, people who are marginalized struggle to survive. If you are sensitive, you may feel like one of those people who is largely invisible to the world as if you have been erased. The Experience Of Feeling Erased Being marginalized means a number of different things and…

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Do empaths and sensitive people “attract” narcissists? This is something I have been thinking about a lot. As a sensitive person, I have had many encounters with narcissistic people myself, and I know it’s the same for many other sensitives. At some point in our lives, we seem to have one entanglement after another with…

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