How To Enjoy The Holidays

Photo by Marina Khrapova on Unsplash I was asked about how to enjoy the holidays to minimize overstimulation and exhaustion. The holidays are adding additional stimulation and exhaustion on top of all of the exhaustion of the pandemic. These are my suggestions for sensitive people and empaths. Sensitive people are easily overwhelmed by the frenzy…

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The Dance from Anger to Empathy


“My mother is driving me nuts again,” Carol tells me as we hike up to Grant Hill during one of our weekly hikes. Her comment is in response to my inquiry about how her week was going. The edge of her reply regarding her elderly mother gets my attention. Before I can say anything, Carol…

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Spite: Is It Always Negative?


The Spite House: Photo by Nils Huenerfuerst on Unsplash Spite is a close cousin of anger and resentment. It is a combination of resentment and defiance which make our lives and the lives of others miserable. Spite and the feuds it creates have a long history and some hidden benefits. What Is Spite? According to Dictionary: a malicious, usually…

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Have We Misplaced Surrender?


What is surrender? When you hear the word, do you cringe – even a little? Surrender is often associated with humiliation. Because war is central to how we too often view life, when we think surrender, we usually think of a defeat and a humiliation. We can too often be defeated even when we are…

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Release The Baggage – Meet The Real You!


We all carry baggage from the past. We can feel it in our energy. We know it is in our minds especially when we are ruminating on something we do not understand or something that has hurt us. Many of us work with meditations of various kinds and other exercises to release the burdensome feelings…

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Meeting The Moment

Photo by Hu Chen on Unsplash One of my favorite phrases is “meeting the moment.” Do you know what it is? Have you ever had the experience of meeting the moment? Meeting the moment is more than being present. It is what you do when you are present like the baby elephant in the image.…

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The New Skill: Ecological Thinking

Photo by Nitish Kadam on Unsplash We humans have been running on left-brained, linear thinking for a long time. It has accomplished a lot but its limitations are evident also. What Is Linear Thinking? Linear thinking is thinking that is based on the idea of sequential events and therefore a line. Sequential events lead to…

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The Special Value Of The Outsider

Outsiders have been shunned by many societies for a long time. They have a special value for their cultures that is often unrecognized and overlooked. Outsiders are the guardians of authenticity. Outsiders And Authenticity Outsiders live on the edge in a way which provides them with a particular vantage point on life. They tend to…

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Being Present: All You Really Need

Being present is often treated as something to strive for. It is a kind of Holy Grail of spirituality and well being. Being present is where you live when your head is out of the way. Why is it so elusive? How Our Heads Get In The Way It never ceases to amaze me how…

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