Is the amount of pleasure in our lives an indication of our worth?  Is the amount of pleasure in our lives proof of our character and goodness? Can pleasure be addictive? The Problem Of Pleasure As A Measurement Tool Obviously there is nothing wrong with pleasure.  Who doesn’t want pleasure in their lives? We all want…

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Recently, I read the book Belonging by Toko-pa Turner. I think I turned to it because I wasn’t feeling a sense of belonging in my own life, and sometimes like books do, it exerted a kind of magical pull on me. In it, she talked about so many things that I am strongly attracted to,…

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Do naysayers drive you up the wall? Highly sensitive people can have difficulty with naysayers. Particularly if they consider themselves wiser than the naysayers – which, frankly, can be quite often. Some people are habitually negative. Sensitive people may have difficulty with those who are habitually negative because they have the capacity for and access…

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Sometimes, it can feel like we can’t even see the underlying problems that come with emotional patterns we play out as HSPs. It can feel like we are doing our best but then bashing our heads against the same problem over and over again. Maybe, as an HSP, our identity is too tightly woven with…

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Highly sensitive people often have difficulty reconciling the many pieces of energetic information that they take in. Most of us try to slow down in a world that is constantly pressuring us to go faster so that we can process and understand what we are receiving before we act. Unfortunately it is not always enough…

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Are you a control freak? Do you get teased for being organized? Do you receive disapproval for needing a neat environment? Do you feel that you are “wrong” to be this way? Would you be surprised to learn that you are right to want to be organized and neat? Being Neat Is Not The Same…

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As a sensitive person, I am often caught up in the rip-tide of my feelings. They sweep me up. They leave me gasping for air. They throw me on the shore, battered and bruised. Because they can be overwhelming, I have been wanting to get to the heart of my emotional life. Why do I…

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Do you do a lot of delegating? Are others frequently delegating to you? As  a highly sensitive person, do you find yourself expected to support others too much? Do you ever feel that you are drowning in needs to be met and problems to be solved? Why is that? Reasons for Delegating Delegating can be a challenging…

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I suspect that our fixation on the “bad” is a habit left over from our ancient past.”Bad” is a very problematic word.  Mostly because it is used to cover so much territory. It is too ambiguous to say much but definitely carries intent with it. “Bad” can drive social behavior and also social consequences. “Bad”…

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Being a sensitive person means that you come into contact with the illusion of autonomy all the time. For a long time human culture – especially Western culture – has promoted autonomy as an important goal for individuals and societies. The goal of autonomy has been a social answer to the issues created by the…

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