grounding

As highly sensitive people who have railed against being called “too sensitive,” many of us grow up to be overthinkers. We try to control what the future might bring. We try to please others and control other people’s reactions to us, so our own sensitive feelings don’t come peeking out.  And because our sensitive nervous…

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pandemic

We are currently living in a unique time. A pandemic has loosened “business as usual” and all bets are off because the novel coronavirus is a new virus, more contagious than other infectious diseases with vaccines at least one year away. This challenge will be with us for awhile. Many people point to a silver…

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boundaries

For a long time, just like other sensitive people, I searched for ways to make myself feel less. Everyone else thought I shouldn’t be so affected by the world, that it wasn’t normal. And believing that it was abnormal to feel so much, I tried to contain it.  Experiments With Self-Protection I tried to push…

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The holiday season can be wonderful. It can be hard, however, to find joy in a world as challenged as our. here are some wise words and perspective from the poet, Mary Oliver about joy. Don’t Hesitate If you suddenly and unexpectedly feel joy, don’t hesitate. Give in to it. There are plenty of lives…

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Have you ever felt at a loss when you needed to draw the line with someone? Have you put yourself at a disadvantage when you failed to draw the line because you couldn’t think of a way to do it ? Have you ever felt mistreated when someone drew a line to your disadvantage? Setting boundaries is…

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For centuries, perhaps the entire history of the human race, “not enough” has been a perceptual anchor. Perceptions about enough and not enough form the basis of much prejudice as well as social and economic inequity. Lack is a frame of reference that informs most of human culture and also our judgment of each other.…

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discernment

Sensitive people have access to a huge amount of information because their ever active nervous system picks up on so much. The upside is that there is much we can do. The downside is that unless we develop ways to process what we encounter we can have difficulty navigating the world and finding the success…

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missing link

Sensitive people connect with the energy around them because their nervous systems are designed to operate in a highly engaged way with everything in their environments. This is not a bad thing, in fact, the sensitive person’s awareness can be exceptionally valuable. In order for that to happen, however, sensitive people need a specific type…

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sensitive people unique nervous system dragonfly

Sensitive people have a unique nervous system which has an oversized capacity to connect with so much of the energy around them. Like the wings on a dragonfly, our nervous systems can support us with a lot of insight and information. If we cannot use the information we receive, then our nervous systems supersized capabilities…

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Start Close In Start close in, don’t take the second step or the third, start with the first thing close in, the step you don’t want to take. Start with the ground you know, the pale ground beneath your feet, your own way of starting the conversation. Start with your own question, give up on…

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