Duality is something that many of us embrace as a way to develop perceptual sophistication.
…love vs. hate…
…light vs. dark…
…yin vs. yang…
…good vs. bad…
…masculine vs. feminine…
It’s a start!
Duality Can Be Like Fool’s Gold
Discovering duality can be exciting. It is a way to start to grapple with the world.
We can see differences and we have a way to think about them.
We have a way to make sense of what we see and feel.
We are in control!
Too many people treat duality as the last word on reality when it is really just the tip of the iceberg. It is not the last word in our quest for perceptual honesty and truth. It is only the beginning.
Duality Is A Window
Duality is like a window. It is a way to begin to understand differences.
But differences are not fixed. They exist in relation to other characteristics and contexts.
So duality is not a way to understand something concrete. It is how we begin to understand factors that are always changing.
Duality gives us an opening to learn about and understand the energy of differences.
It lets us be with differences so that we can begin to understand their value.
Light is not just one value, and dark is not just one value. Each offer us many rich variations and different levels of opacity, intensity, and subtlety.
When we engage with dualities we can begin to see what we miss.
Holding The Tension Of Dualities
The creative process provides us with a tension between what we want and where we are currently.
When we hold the tension between the two, possibilities then show themselves to us.
The same is true with dualities.
When we hold light and dark together in our attention, then they start to evolve. They move together, they dialogue, they may argue. They beome active.
Meeting The Exquisite
Holding dualities creates a movement to the middle.
It allows something to emerge. That something is a place that works, where the two elements are not just in balance but where they are the most effective, where they bring out the best in each other.
Holding the tension of dualities helps you find a sweet spot between them. It is a tool to help you hold the tension in conflicts and let solutions find you.
Finding solutions and where dualities are able to meet and work together reveals a sweet spot: a place where you a feel something fall into place.
It’s a place which feels right, a place where everything feels in sync.
When you find it, it feels like you have bumped into something exquisite. It is better than harmony and it is better than compromise.
It is the sweet spot, the exquisite feeling that comes from the tension of dualities coming together in the right way for the right reasons.
It is one of the best feelings in the world.