Spinning Your Wheels? How To Embrace Change To Become Unstuck

Are you tired of spinning your wheels?

For many of us, it’s easy to fall into the habitual routines doing the same thing over and over, even though our actions aren’t producing the results we want.

It can be difficult to break out of our normal routines of thinking and doing.

Why do we persist on the same habitual path and expect different results?

How We Become Stuck

My theory is that we prefer to stick with what is comfortable and familiar so that we can avoid the anxiety of making a change. We subconsciously value our comfort more than getting the results we want. Thus, we soldier on, each time crossing our fingers and hoping for a better outcome.

A much more effective strategy, however, is to routinely evaluate what is working in your life and what isn’t. While I know that some of you (myself included) might get heart palpitations at the thought of this, the truth is that you can’t rationalize your way to a productive life. If you really want to achieve your goals, it’s often necessary to move out of your comfort zone and open up to new and better options.

We sometimes need a compelling reason to motivate us to make a change. In some cases, we wait until a situation becomes so uncomfortable that we have no choice but to seek new ways of helping ourselves. But why wait for the pain? Wouldn’t it be much better to be motivated by a positive goal, rather than by the fear of pending disaster?

How To Cut Through Habitual Processes Of The Subconscious

To cut through the habitual processes of your subconscious mind, you can try asking yourself the following questions:

  • What do I want from my life? Am I clear on my goals?
  • Are my current actions getting me closer to my goals? If not, what other actions can I take? (Leverage your creativity to come up with different ideas.)
  • If I’m resistant to other actions, what am I afraid of? What is holding me back?
  • Are my fears justified? What is the worst that can happen? What is the best that can happen?
  • What steps can I take to reduce my anxiety and make the change easier for me to accept?
  • Although it’s always simpler to stick with what you know, try challenging yourself to think “out of the box” as you consider other options.

Change in Action

To demonstrate these ideas, I’d like to share a story from my life. I have been having health issues since the beginning of the year, and I was going to my regular doctor. He sent me for various tests to determine if anything serious was going on. While I was relieved that all the tests came back negative, I became frustrated when my doctor couldn’t determine what my problem was. I went back for several more visits, but I always came away disappointed. I could have continued to go for further medical tests, but I had an intuitive feeling that I needed to take an alternative course of action.

I listened to my gut and decided to contact my acupuncturist, Yingzhe (Angela) Li, who has help me tremendously in the past. I wanted to see what she thought about my symptoms. She suggested that acupuncture treatments and Chinese herbs would help balance my energy. Once in balance, I would feel better mentally and physically. After three months of these treatments, I’m relieved to report that I am finally starting to feel like myself again! I have no doubt that if I hadn’t changed my strategy, I would still be struggling with the same health issues.

Sticking Your Toe In The Water

Are you open to new ways of doing things? To get results, you sometimes need to follow your intuition and open yourself up to new possibilities. As a highly sensitive person, you are blessed with deep-thinking and reflective capabilities that can propel you to find creative solutions to challenging problems.

Although change can be very daunting to the HSP psyche, the rewards are well worth it, and the more you step up to the challenge, the easier the process becomes. Why not give it a try, and let today be the day that you alter your course and live your best and most productive life?

About charwin

Cliff is a highly sensitive person and owner of the Highly Sensitive Person Publishing Company website.


  1. Katie Hawn on August 12, 2013 at 1:49 pm

    There are two things I have learned to do when I am spinning my wheels, feeling like all my efforts are somehow falling into a whirlpool of ineffectiveness. First, years ago, I learned that Upledger’s CranioSacral Therapy was a very good way to push my inner ‘reset’ or ‘reboot’ button so that I could get to the next page and get on with my life. I got so curious about it that soon I became a CranioSacral Therapist myself. Now years later, along with laying on the table with my favorite CST practitioner, I also sometimes go to bed at night and ‘surrender’ my worries and to-do lists and life to my higher wisdom, higher will and the universal good. When I surrender consistently – usually every night for a week – things in my life begin to somehow arrange themselves, benefitting me in ways I could never have predicted. Just how I do this ‘surrendering’ is a technique I teach in my book Magic Nights. It’s nice to know that when things get crazy, I have an inner wisdom and higher self that sees more and knows more what I want than my conscious self could ever guess.

    • Maria on August 12, 2013 at 2:44 pm

      Hi Katie,

      Thank you for writing. I think what you are doing is wonderful.

      Surrender is a hard place to get to because we are conditioned to seek to be in control. Obviously we are not, and when we let go we let ourselves work with the universe which helps us get what we need.

      If you ever feel like writing about our experience with CST and surrender let me know.

      All the best,

  2. Barbara Patton on July 13, 2021 at 6:42 am

    As a HSP myself, It is good to reconnect with an old friend and learn from your wisdom and experience. The faster the world moves, the more intuitive and sensitive I become. Great to learn from you, Maria, and I love your wonderful blogs. We have so much in common and I have much to share with you about my own journey over the years. Thank you for these beautiful blogs and website.

    • Maria Hill on July 13, 2021 at 10:11 am

      Hi Barbara, I hope you are well. I am glad you are enjoying this site and finding it helpful.

      Warm regards,