I suspect that our fixation on the “bad” is a habit left over from our ancient past.”Bad” is a very problematic word.  Mostly because it is used to cover so much territory. It is too ambiguous to say much but definitely carries intent with it. “Bad” can drive social behavior and also social consequences.

“Bad” can mean unpleasant, or refer to something that does not work well. When two people are in disagreement, the word can represent a dysfunctional relationship. Sometimes it is a word used to cover our social incompatibilities, developmental deficits, and ignorance.  It can mean inconvenient.  It can easily be used as code word for something else.

The History Of Bad

I suspect that the word “bad”  may have been less social for our early ancestors. For them, bad may have been an unwelcome dinosaur coming for lunch, a storm, or not enough basic necessities. Of course, bad could also have been any number of diseases that were not understood and had no cure. Bad could have been a visit from headhunters or other marauders, or the plague. Bad was often linked to the challenges of our species living in a difficult physical environment.

As we seem to have conquered our environment, and that may be a matter up for debate, “bad” has become more ambiguous and that may be why people have so much difficulty with it and why it is so hard for people to feel good.

I think that feeling good is our normal state.  Many people like myself who meditate come to see bliss as our natural state and all the other stuff going on as distractions from our natural state. However, as long as we are being graded in one way or another by ourselves or other people and treated like we are on trial every day of our lives, most of us are probably going to have a hard time getting rid of the bad feelings that plague us.

Certainly, people have been judging each other for centuries. Perhaps it only seems worse because there are so many people on the planet now. Eight billion people judging each other like crazy is a lot of social overhead that has to be dealt with.

Relating To “Bad” Messages

For highly sensitive people, judgments, in particular, cause a lot of pain because they are not only felt acutely energetically but also they are experienced directly in the body. Often what is called “bad” about sensitive people is a sign of ignorance on the part of the person judging or a misunderstanding of our nature. There does not have to be ill intent. Well intentioned not knowing leaves a mark also.

Every cultural system defines what is “good” and “bad” for its members. It can be confusing trying to relate to the different mindsets of the many cultural systems of the world. It is important to know that cultures expect you to serve their agenda which may conflict with your living authentically. Therefore, it is important not to make yourself wrong because you are different.

Sensitive people need to be particularly mindful about how clogged their systems can become with social judgment as well as other forms of pollution to prevent themselves from drowning in social pain.  Meditation, energy healing, and healthy dietary and lifestyle practices can do a lot to minimize bad feelings that sensitive people can be prone to have.

It helps also to be as discerning as possible not only about your personal habits but also about how you invest your time and energy. Being sensitive has a built in overhead of processing that takes up a certain amount of time and energy and needs to be respected and honored. So learning to find suitable work and social investments makes it easier to be true to yourself and make your contribution to the world in a healthy way.

About Maria Hill

Maria Hill is the founder of Sensitive Evolution. She is the author of The Emerging Sensitive: A Guide For Finding Your Place In The World. In addition, she has created the immersive Emerging Sensitive Program of "sensory processing yoga" using frameworks to help sensitive people master their sensitivity and turn it into the asset it can be. She also offers the Emerging Sensitive Movie Club focused on movies and discussions about living in the world as a sensitive person and navigating the challenging cultural shifts of our times. She is a longtime meditator, reiki master, student of alternative health and Ayurveda. Maria is also an abstract painter whose portfolio can be found at Infinite Shape and also very interested in animal and human rights and the environment.