Have We Misplaced Surrender?


What is surrender?

When you hear the word, do you cringe – even a little? Surrender is often associated with humiliation. Because war is central to how we too often view life, when we think surrender, we usually think of a defeat and a humiliation. We can too often be defeated even when we are right by forces with greater power of one kind or another.

Definition Of Surrender

According to dictionary.com, surrender is

What Have We Lost?

To function well, we need to be aware of what is happening around us, what we feel, what we think, and what the moment is asking of us. We need to be curious and open to our environment. It means that we connect to the world in the spirit of friendship and possibility, not defensiveness.

Right now, the aggression and conflict in the human world is so great that we are not able to engage in such an open and welcoming way with each other. Without being pollyannish about it, would it not serve us well to consider a friendlier approach to each other and life?

What Is Healthy Surrender?

If a war-like world makes curiosity and friendliness unhelpful, what would our lives be like if we changed that? What does it look like when we structure our world to support curiosity, friendliness, and collaboration?

Healthy surrender means that we connect with reality. When I say reality, I do not mean mindset. Reality is the natural world, circadian processes, a natural process of connecting with others and solving problems that has space for discovery, curiosity, imagination, creativity, and respect rather than the cynicism that is so prevalent. Reality is life cycles, the welcoming and accepting of differences that we know make nature so magical and rich. Perhaps we could invite some of that richness in us to the table.

Without healthy surrender, we cannot fully engage with life. As a result, we cannot work together and solve our problems together. That is a huge loss and one we have to rectify. How beautiful it would be if we did!

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Note: originally published on magicofjoy.com

About Maria Hill

Maria Hill is the founder of Sensitive Evolution. She is the author of The Emerging Sensitive: A Guide For Finding Your Place In The World. In addition, she has created the immersive Emerging Sensitive Program using cultural and personal development frameworks to help sensitive people master their sensitivity and turn it into the asset it can be. She also offers The Magic Of Joy program for quantum healing and the Emerging Sensitive Community focused on living in the world as a sensitive person and navigating the challenging cultural shifts of our times. She is a longtime meditator, reiki master, student of alternative health and Ayurveda. Maria is a Certified Theta Healer and certified in Spiral Dynamics. She is an abstract painter whose portfolio can be found at Infinite Shape and also very interested in animal and human rights and the environment.