Do naysayers drive you up the wall? Highly sensitive people can have difficulty with naysayers. Particularly if they consider themselves wiser than the naysayers – which, frankly, can be quite often. Some people are habitually negative. Sensitive people may have difficulty with those who are habitually negative because they have the capacity for and access to a more nuanced perspective. As a result, highly sensitive people tend to seek and offer insights which are not always welcome.

Sensitivity To Nuance And Naysayers

HSPs inevitably include as much information as possible in their decision making especially all the information in their awareness they have no choice but to deal with.  If you take in or are aware of huge amounts of information, your perception will be informed by all of those inputs. HSPs may have deeper and more complex insights than others. The result is that HSPs may feel at odds with rule makers, gatekeepers, and other authority figures without really having an interest in conflict. One of the unfortunate consequences is that many people perceive highly sensitive people as difficult when in reality many HSPs dislike conflict.

Naysayers Do Not Own Reality

The dilemma of highly sensitive people and naysayers is not a superficial one. Naysaying is often a knee-jerk reaction to a behavior, a change or a need.  It is often conditioned behavior based on individual and cultural habits. It is often defensive. HSPs who are inundated with all sorts of information, both habitual and less noticed, do not have the luxury of mindless obedience. The situation for the highly sensitive is further complicated because their sensitivity increases and supports their awareness and integrity, which then may make them at odds with the more conforming members of society. It also makes conversation difficult.

A Different Wavelength

Inevitably highly sensitive people cannot help but be on a different wavelength.  Trying to share that wavelength with non-HSPs can be difficult and maybe sometimes dangerous. Unfortunately the desire for seeing and being seen will not be satisfied by many non-HSPs who cannot appreciate a sensitive person’s perspective. Trying to reconcile the differences can be emotionally damaging and affect our integrity and self-respect. Being an HSP gives us a need for encouragement that non-HSPs may not share since they are more aligned with their peers and cultural direction.  Naysayers, then, can actually damage the dreams, hopes and aspirations of the highly sensitive. Naysayers can also block progress in many ways. One of the most difficult problems for highly sensitive people is the internalizing of the naysaying around them and taking it as an indictment of their very identity. That is a mistake to be avoided. Naysayers do not know it all.  They can benefit from the insights and wisdom of highly sensitive people, and HSPs need to continually remind themselves of this so that they can summon the energy to hold their ground. HSPs need to be mindful of the fact that naysayers can cause them harm. Surrounding yourself with more positive people is a great insurance policy against the self esteem erosion that occurs around the naysayers of the world.

 

2020 Empowerment Guide For Sensitive People

This month, starting Monday, we are going to hear from some amazing people who support the development and success of sensitive people. We are offering 15 articles from various experts to help you quell the naysayers and have a wonderful 2020. These are the individuals offering their wisdom:

  • January 6 –   Ane Axford
  • January 7 –   Esther Bergsma
  • January 8 –   Julie Bjelland
  • January 9 –   Tracy Cooper
  • January 10 – Jody Day
  • January 13 – Christina Fletcher
  • January 14 – Jeannette Folan
  • January 15 – Jason Freeman
  • January 16 – Maria Hill
  • January 17 – Imi Lo
  • January 20 – Ritu Kaushal
  • January 21 – Amber Rochelle
  • January 22 – April Snow
  • January 23 – Jacquelyn Strickland
  • January 24 – Megghan Thompson

I hope you will make a point of reading the articles and sharing with others. This is a direct link to the Empowerment Guide page and you can read the articles here, of course. We all wish you a wonderful and empowered 2020.

About Maria Hill

Maria Hill is the founder of Sensitive Evolution. She is the author of The Emerging Sensitive: A Guide For Finding Your Place In The World. In addition, she has created the immersive Emerging Sensitive Program of "sensory processing yoga" using frameworks to help sensitive people master their sensitivity and turn it into the asset it can be. She also offers the Emerging Sensitive Movie Club focused on movies and discussions about living in the world as a sensitive person and navigating the challenging cultural shifts of our times. She is a longtime meditator, reiki master, student of alternative health and Ayurveda. Maria is also an abstract painter whose portfolio can be found at Infinite Shape and also very interested in animal and human rights and the environment.

2 Comments

  1. Kathy Dreyer on January 10, 2020 at 5:07 pm

    This is exactly what I have experienced throughout my childhood and into my adulthood and I feel has stopped my progress in life. Thank you



    • Maria Hill on January 10, 2020 at 5:08 pm

      You are welcome, Kathy!

      Warm regards,
      Maria