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Are You Numbing Your Sensitivity?

Are your numbing your sensitivity? I do sometimes.

As I stood in line waiting to order my cup of coffee, I reached for my phone in my purse. You know, just in case there were any new updates within the last 5 minutes since the last time I checked it.

I didn’t feel the need to check. I just did it. You might be thinking that yes, you do this, too. It’s like we are on autopilot sometimes. Or are we?

Avoiding Our Sensitivity

What if we aren’t? What if we know exactly what we are doing?

What if we are checking our phones—or eating when we’re not hungry, or watching another episode on Netflix, or {insert supposedly mindless activity here}—because feeling our sensitivity just feels like it’s too much?

Do you do this? Do you participate in little actions throughout your day to avoid your sensitive self-feeling too much, feeling life around you? You are numbing your sensitivity.

Why You Are Numbing Your Sensitivity

I get it. We HSPs know what it’s like to truly feel our way through life. It can get overwhelming. Eye contact with a stranger. Sitting too close to someone on the train. Returning a phone call we don’t want to make. Showing up to a stressful job. Meeting new people at a party. Heck, even being with our own families at a holiday gathering.

It can be a lot to handle. Because we feel life’s moments more intensely, the volume can feel like it’s turned up too high a lot of the time. Mere eye contact with a stranger can feel like it’s just too much to handle when you’ve already got an ongoing to-do list in your mind, plus you’re still dwelling on the conversation you had earlier with a friend that just didn’t sit well with you.

Because there’s already so much going on internally, numbing our sensitivity to the stimulation around us can feel like the most natural thing in the world to HSPs.

Sensitivity Does Not Have To Be A Trap

But what if that moment you’re missing is one that may change your life? What if you could have both—a lively inner world and a way to meet the stimulating present moment with courage and calm, at the same time?

It takes some heart to heart time with your intuition, regular practice, and compassion for yourself along the way, but it is possible. With practice, HSPs can slowly baby step their way out of numbing their sensitivity and begin looking at life around them with curiosity, offering it their attention even if it feels awkward. Even if it feels scary.

A nod to a stranger, a “How are you?” to your cashier at the supermarket, showing up to a networking event, not looking at your phone during time spent with a loved one—it may not seem like it, but these are all brave acts for the HSP.

They require us to feel multiple things at once. They ask us to get real with the world around us.

Checking our phones to avoid feeling the world around us is just one way we may be numbing our sensitivity. The ways are endless, and some much more destructive than others. Avoiding feeling too much by drinking alcohol, doing drugs, sleeping too much, eating too much, the list goes on.

Do you catch yourself numbing your sensitivity? If so, how do you do it? What is one small step you can take this week to connect to the world around you while still feeling safe and OK in your HSP skin?

 

About Kathryn Nulf

Highly sensitive souls have a lively inner world + fire within, but that fire can be easily swayed by stress and overwhelm. When your inner light wavers and you aren't living from a strong and grounded center, stress eating occurs. You hope that food will fuel our inner fire and stop the overwhelm, but does it? As a certified health coach and registered yoga teacher, Kathryn Nulf supports HSPs in her private and group coaching programs to step out of overwhelm and finally feel free and at peace around food. Her passion is to help HSPs discover what it's like to have an inner flame so strong that it's not swayed by every stressful event in life. Kathryn helps her clients embrace their unique trait so that their whole self can embrace life. If you'd like to find out what working together might look like, set up a {free} discovery session at her website. Connect with her on Facebook, Twitter, Google+,.

34 Comments

  1. Mike on June 15, 2019 at 1:39 am

    Thanks Maria for this article and the group as a whole. With being an introvert and empath male adult life can become stressful especially in not knowing these traits about yourself and thinking somethings wrong with you.

    Like mentioned before I shut myself out from the world with fear of ridicule of how I am, but lately I’m feeling more empowered and learning to ground myself has become key.

    I believe I’m slowly returning to a more zealous me.

    What’s also helped me is carefully choosing the situations I put myself into, being more open about my sensitivity to certain people and surrounding myself with the right people.

    • Maria Hill on June 15, 2019 at 6:39 am

      Thanks for stopping by, Mike and sharing your perspective. I love the steps you are taking to move out in the world.

      All the best,
      Maria



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