Spirituality and Empowerment: A Love Letter From Jacquelyn Strickland

I have yet to meet a highly sensitive person, myself included, who has not embarked on some type of a self-reflection journey that seeks deeper understanding and truth about existential questions such as:

  • “Who am I?”  
  • “What is the purpose of my life?” 
  • “How can I create and live a more authentic HSP life?”  
  • “How can connect deeply with myself, and my own values, and still serve others, especially those I love?”  

This inquiry is unique to  each person’s life experience.  It takes time to unravel meanings assigned to the stories we have been told, or those stories we have told ourselves. This process can be both freeing and joyous. Yet for some, it can be arduous and painful to understand and heal from past traumas, wounds, and often lifelong experiences of feeling misunderstood.  It may be helpful to remember this quote from Carl Jung :

“Where you are wounded, you are also gifted.” 

Carl Jung

Spirituality As A Journey

To me this sometimes lifelong journey is about spirituality.    Elaine Aron Ph.D.’s closing remarks from the documentary, Sensitive: The Untold Story speak to this: 

“ I like the idea of it being a spiritual journey because understanding sensitivity takes us all deeper into our actual true self, whatever that is …”

Dr. Elaine Aron

Elaine has often referred to we HSPs as numinous saying:

“Most HSPs crave contact with the numinous…Those who have had it know what it is, but part of its nature is that there are no good words to describe it, yet the numinous stirs us, and creates a particular emotional state that can feel like a sense of devotion and love;  a deep, sweet tranquility, security, or knowingness…”

Dr. Elaine Aron

Rudolph Otto who wrote the book, The Idea of the Holy, refers to the numinous as the “mysterium tremendum.” He took his term  from the Latin numen, meaning a god, cognate with the verb nuere, to nod or beckon, indicating divine approval.  Or, God beckons approvingly.  For some this could certainly be applied to their religious faith, and for others, the definitions of spirituality seem to be a more accurate fit.    

There are numerous other definitions of spirituality which cover broad areas of belief and experience. My own spiritual journey has been similar to a calling  …  or a search for a feeling of home: a home, or existence which is filled with love.  Tami Simon, the founder of Sounds True in Boulder, Colorado describes this experience as “Natural Human Spirituality” which can feel similar to a call of a pilgrimage, much like a homing instinct.  It is an archetypal symbol for love of truth.  It comes from an image of nurturing a small spark or inner desire into a burning flame which asks us to tune in, feel, and follow what our deepest instincts are calling us to do. 

Two mottos from the HSP Gathering RetreatsSince2001 (1) that have helped me nurture my own callings are: 

  • Trust the process and
  • Focus on needs, not approval.

Spirituality And Trusting The Process

Even if feeling confused, anxious or uncertain, always ask:  “What is there for me to learn in this moment?” and perhaps, most importantly, “What do I need in this moment?” Note:  It is quite helpful to take time to journal your answers to these questions.

Trusting the process involves responding to those tiny moments of inspiration that I have come to call “divine breadcrumbs,”  This takes courage, vulnerability, faith, and compassion for self and others, and often leads to a sense of being connected to something greater than oneself.  

Focus On Needs Not Approval

The other important part of this motto is: Focus on needs, not approval. This is a necessary skill which can offer guidelines for personal boundary setting, which can foster confidence needed to allow us to be aware of, and take action on the synchronicities that can show up in our lives. Inspired actions choose us, we do not choose them.  But we must be free of other’s expectations or judgments in order to honor these inspired actions.

A Spiritual Practice For Sensitive People

Practicing these two mottos can be a form of spirituality and can lead us to unique inspired actions, not goals to achieve.   Creating and following a spiritual practice can seem daunting at times.  Here are just a few tried and true suggestions which may be helpful on your journey to creating a more authentic way of life as a highly sensitive person:   

  • Meditation.    For some, meditation is dedicated to training the mind to release all thought which, for the serious meditator, can eventually lead to a heightened sense of  consciousness, or connection with “all” there is.  Meditation can also be as simple as spending quiet time in nature, reflection or contemplative prayer.  Thich Nhat Hanh teaches a wonderful walking mediation I strongly suggest trying. 
  • Prayer:  Prayer can be similar to meditation for many: that is spending quiet time in nature, reflection or contemplative prayer seeking solace, wisdom or answers to life’s difficult questions.   My favorite, easy to read book about prayer is Help, Thanks, Wow by Anne Lamott.   It is humorous, poignant, hopeful, and it reminds us to also use prayer as a way of expressing gratitude or thanksgiving. 
  • Spend time in nature:  The more the better.  Solitude time in nature can gift us with a heightened awareness of our thoughts, emotions, images, and memories.  Much like prayer, taking a question, concern or desire with you into to nature is an opportunity to receive wisdom and solace which can bring a greater sense of clarity and peace.
  • Journaling:   It doesn’t matter if you do morning pages as encouraged by Julia Cameron of The Artist’s Way, or whether you just put your thoughts, feelings, experiences onto paper via bullet points.  Research shows keeping a Gratitude Journal can increase a sense of happiness and fulfillment and improve our overall health – it could also help us to identify and reflect on our spiritual journey. 
  • Health:   Awareness of health: physical, emotional, intellectual, social are of keen importance.  Yin Yoga (slow, deep stretch) is a favorite of many HSPs I know.  Being aware of which foods give you energy and which drain you is also a day to day practice – similar to becoming aware of which people/environments drain or energize you.

The Spirituality Empowerment Connection

Oxford Dictionary defines empowerment as “the process of becoming stronger and more confident, especially in controlling one’s life and claiming one’s rights.”   But empowerment can have many different meanings to different people—depending on one’s life experiences, hopes, and dreams.  Here are a few definitions from my friends and colleagues from the ICHS (International Consultants on High Sensitivity.)2

“I feel empowered when, whilst being aware of my shadow, I endeavor to express the truth as it lives in my soul “  

Karina Zegers de Beijl, Palma de Mallorca, Spain

“For me empowerment is about thoughts, feelings, resources and experiences and how do deal with those.  It is finding your inner strength and power to do what you really want to do.”   

Lian Kirksæther, Norway

“To me it means to have power over my actions, thoughts, feelings and thus influence my experience of my world. If I consciously choose my actions, thoughts and feelings, I create my own world and can change things I don’t like into a positive. This requires openness and honesty and the willingness to learn from experiences.”

 Annet de Zwart, The Netherlands

My own definition of empowerment is: 
“Respects and honors our inevitable emotional reactions to disturbing events thus  serving as a role model for authentic concern for others and world events- and when necessary choosing to act vs react in a way that honors ourselves and others.”

But please do not despair or give up…… for there is absolutely light at the end of this tunnel of transformation ! 

Spirituality Leads To Joy

Moments of clarity and joy do come and this includes a day to day awareness of how your life has become more your own, by making small daily choices which acknowledge your sensitivity, nurture your needs, and help you own your truth.   This new way of life is still filled with many peaks and valleys, and may not be easier than the old, yet it is definitely more authentic and filled with more joys, skills and hope to envision a brighter future.

You will begin to trust ~ knowing what you’ve always known ~ a familiar, yet distant wisdom becomes your friend.  You will feel more alive with creativity, insight and confidence.  I’ve come to call these moments “HSP interludes of happiness & Joy, which I encourage and we experience at the HSP Gathering Retreats. Here is just one of many experiences of one HSP experiencing this kind of clarity and joy.

“Have you ever stood in the most beautiful place, taking in all that you see, feel, smell, taste, touch? Reaching out to the purest of water coming off a mountain stream. Allowing it to touch your lips, pure icy cold bringing energy to your very being. Taking in the fresh mountain air. Drawing your soul into the essence of beauty and life. It being the most perfect moment you could ever have as though you were soaring through the green lush valley as an eagle. It’s a moment so rare, as rare as finding your jewel in a crazy world. But today I experienced that moment. It would have to be one of the most amazing organic experiences I have ever had. A healing. Pure. Positive. Spiritual. Connection.”   

Mel Baker

You can also take solace from the words of Dr. Gary Linker, a psychologist featured in Sensitive: The Untold Story.  He shares: 

“…Often times, it’s the sensitive people are who are the Pioneers, who are the oracles, who can see into the future and see what’s coming…. but we don’t give them enough credit as guides to us, instead we … demean them because they are different than we are…”

Dr. Gary Linker

Since Elaine Aron’s first book, The Highly Sensitive Person, How to Thrive When the World Overwhelms You,” published in 1996, we have seen evidence of many highly sensitive people growing and evolving and taking their rightful place as oracles, or as Elaine likes to call us:  Priestly Advisors.3

A dear friend and colleague, who I consider a Priestly Advisor, has this to say about empowerment.  I think it reflects someone who has integrated a spiritual practice into their life, in that there is a true concern for self and others:

“The state of healthy empowerment is one in which an individual or group of people are able to express their unique identity, meet their natural needs and express gifts.  Healthy empowerment exists without impinging on the empowerment of others.  Thus empowerment as a personal expression includes using one’s power or right, but it can also include voluntary compromise or temporary curtailing of one’s own empowered right, to ensure that the healthy empowerment of other persons, or an idea, has room to develop or express itself.  In that way, at times, one can actually feel empowered whilst appearing to be less empowered to the outside eye.  The main element in operation in this case is the right of personal choice.”

Barbara Allen, United Kingdom

Finally, Elaine Aron shares with us4:

“…Our world is going through vast changes, many of them frightening and many not clearly understood … and we all need these sensitive hearts and minds…people to study and reflect on our world as it is now…”

“…To the highly sensitive I say, I beg you: speak out, you now know you are in good company… we can support each other….. you are not the only one.”

With you on this journey!


  1. HSP Gathering Retreats™, were co-founded in 2001 by Dr. Elaine Aron and Jacquelyn Strickland.  Since then, there have been 36 and counting national and international HSP Gathering Retreats.
  2. ICHS-International Consultants High Sensitive: a collective of national and international HSP professionals trained by Dr. Elaine Aron to serve as speakers, consultants, facilitators in order to advance accurate, scientific information about this unique genetic trait. 
  3. Aron, Elaine. (1996) The Highly Sensitive Persons Workbook, p. 31
  4. The documentary:  Sensitive: The Untold Story

About Jacquelyn Strickland

Jacquelyn has been a Licensed Professional Counselor since 1993, having worked exclusively with highly sensitive people since 2000. She is one of the very first pioneers, with Elaine Aron, of what is now an international movement connecting HSPs around the world. Jacquelyn & Elaine co-founded the HSP Gathering RetreatsSince 2001 , and there have been 36 and counting, national and international retreats. We will be celebrating the 37th retreat as soon as it is safe to gather, and possibly we will gather virtually as well. Jacquelyn’s background in Social Work, Women’s Studies, cultural diversity and a graduate degree in Counseling have empowered and informed her work since first finding out about our HSP trait in May of 1996. Her psychotherapy practice included therapeutic orientations, coaching principles, mixed with a client’s spiritual foundation. She has been trained in hypnotherapy and loved her work as an EMDR, Level II practitioner. She has been certified to utilize Myers Briggs Personality Assessment since 1991, and is also well versed in the use of the Enneagram, using both of these modalities, when helpful, in her work. She now connects with highly sensitive people around the world as an HSP mentor, coach, educator and retreat & workshop leader, including the HSP Gathering Retreats, and her Nature as Teacher and Healer retreats held in beautiful Colorado where she lives. She is an expert on Sensory Processing Sensitivity and a member of ICHS – International Consultants High Sensitivity, a group of international professionals trained by Elaine Aron in 2018. Jacquelyn has been married to a non-HSP introvert since 1978 and is the mother of two grown sons, one an HSP, and one simply very kind. She is the grandmother of three delightful grandchildren, ages 3, 4 and 6. One granddaughter is almost certainly a sensitive extrovert like her grandmother. Connect with Jacquelyn at her website or on her Facebook page. Sign up for her newsletter, HSP Highlights & Insights - website


  1. Lynn bliss on January 26, 2020 at 9:00 pm

    Resonates with me. Thanks

  2. Caroline Farquhar on March 1, 2021 at 8:05 am

    Thank you for taking the time to share your wisdom Jacquelyn !!!

    Your article was beautifully articulated – drawing on a breadth of sources who rounded out your insights, and provided us the reader with a different context for us to resonate with. This topic excites me greatly!!!

    I am very interested in hosting a HSP retreat in Australia ?? and would love to know how I could go about planning this so it can become a reality in 2021/22. In the past I have facilitated many National spiritual retreats that went from a single day, to 10days – these were set in some of the most beautiful, pristine areas of our state that always provided a peaceful setting that induced healing and a higher vibration that was felt by every soul who attended. I would dearly love to bring my past experiences with leadership and facilitating events, along with the personal and spiritual growth courses, or HSP information sessions to the people of Australia to ensure as many people as possible hear all about being a HSP personality type and are provided the life changing information !!!!

    I am not sure what is the best way for us to connect?
    I am happy to proved my email address and hope I don’t get spammed!

    With love and respect,
    Caroline Farquhar
    Tasmania, Australia

  3. Jacquelyn on March 2, 2021 at 3:16 pm

    Hello Caroline,
    Nice to receive your positive feedback on the intersection of Spirituality & Empowerment. I will send you a pm in the next few days.
    with care,