HSP Identity: A Plant In The Right Place

My name is Lisa McLoughlin and I am from Green Alder coaching, based in the UK. I would like to share a personal account of my journey to discover that I am an HSP. Is There Something Wrong With Me? Most of my life I felt like a weed— not belonging to my environment. Being…

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In Search Of A Real Conversation

I like a real conversation. I do not like a faux conversation. I do not like pretend conversations. I do not like manipulative conversations. It can be quiet around me. What Is A Real Conversation, Anyway? It probably sounds silly and perhaps a little whiney – but what is a real conversation? It may be…

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Separating Ambition And Greed

Ambition and greed are often thought of as the same thing. They are not easy concepts for highly sensitive people and can be a source of pain and unhappiness. Greed Does Not Work For Highly Sensitive People Greed does not work as a life strategy for most highly sensitive people. Part of the reason is…

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The Message Of Depression

Do you think that there is something wrong with you when you are depressed? Suppose you are depressed because there is something right with you. Possible? Depression And The Aching Heart What is the message of depression? Often when we think of depression we think of loss, disappointment and other feelings connected to our external lives.…

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Are HSPs The Proverbial Canary In The Coal Mine?

In his book Thrive!, which discusses the gifts and challenges of highly sensitive people, Dr. Tracy M. Cooper talks about his research on the trait of sensory processing sensitivity. What interested me most were the stories and real-life experiences of fellow HSPs. They helped to draw a picture of how HSPs as a population might…

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Rocking The Boat: An Important Life Skill

Do you want to rock the boat? One way is to make art! Abstract art does many things but it is best at rocking the boat and causing us to see things in a new way. Rocking the boat is an important life skill, and one that highly sensitive people should embrace. Mindless Activity Currently, we…

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20 Things We Can Learn From Pain

For the longest time, I have been having difficulty with how we treat each other, particularly about pain. I have been hard pressed to understand it. If we are not aware of pain, we cannot manage our world well.  Pain is a sign that we need to make a change; it is important information and…

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No Need To Rush: The Special Gift Of Slow

I have always been expected to operate at lightning speed. And it has never worked for me. I need to process…and process…and process… I LOVE to process. It is my idea of a good time! What’s The Rush! I have never understood the need to rush. In my experience, the easiest way to have problems…

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Sensitive People’s Inverted Hierarchy Of Needs

A few months back, I attended a talk by Dave Markowitz, the author of Self-Care For The Self-Aware, in the events room of a metaphysical bookstore filled with highly sensitive people and empaths looking for insights and help. The energy in the room was electric. As it often happens when I attend a group event…

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The Mistake Of Identity

  Identity is an anchor in most of our lives. It is usually derived from a combination of our own experiences, our family and school feedback and our culture. Identities can feel wonderful if we have positive feedback or it can feel like a ball and chain if we do not. The more important question…

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