Fuzzy boundaries? Boundaries are one of the biggest challenges facing highly sensitive people. They can be a source of aggravation and unhappiness. There are many reason why boundary issues are a problem for us, some having to do with us and others having to do with the world. It would help if we could get…

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Why is self-care so hard?  Whenever I see a sleeping cat, I am struck by how unconflicted they are about living each moment, about being here and their deservingness. Receiving simply is not an issue for them. Humans make the whole business of receiving about power.  So receiving inevitably comes with some sort of baggage…

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Highly sensitive people tend to be empathic by nature, but focusing on the wants and needs of others can sometimes result in self-neglect. Unexpressed thoughts or feelings can lead to stress, anxiety, and poor health. However, expressing yourself does not mean you have to confide in another person. The simple act of writing on paper…

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When we afraid everything around us looms large and chaotic. Lately though it seems that fear has become the norm and we are living in a perpetual state of emergency. Perhaps it has always been this way but I am noticing something else at work that needs questioning. Emergencies Are Not Innocent Emergencies have become…

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  Duality is something that many of us embrace as a way to develop perceptual sophistication. You know… …love vs. hate… …light vs. dark… …yin vs. yang… …good vs. bad… …masculine vs. feminine… It’s a start! Duality Can Be Like Fool’s Gold Discovering duality can be exciting. It is a way to start to grapple…

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canary in the coal mine

In his book Thrive!, which discusses the gifts and challenges of highly sensitive people, Dr. Tracy M. Cooper talks about his research on the trait of sensory processing sensitivity. What interested me most were the stories and real-life experiences of fellow HSPs. They helped to draw a picture of how HSPs as a population might…

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Listen to your fatigue. Exhaustion is an important message from our bodies, emotions, and spirits. Western thinking and cultural practices treat fatigue, at best, as an inconvenience. Such thinking is a mistake and particularly problematic for highly sensitive people. What Fatigue Does For Us All living things need renewal to be healthy.  If we do…

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Self sacrifice is very hard to escape. It is so conditioned into us that whether you are an HSP or non-HSP doesn’t matter. You are subject to the expectation. Self sacrifice carried to an extreme will make you sick, emotionally and physically. Why is self-sacrifice such a problem? Self-Sacrifice Solves A Lot Of Problems Self…

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Ambition and greed are often thought of as the same thing. They are not easy concepts for highly sensitive people and can be a source of pain and unhappiness. Greed Does Not Work For Highly Sensitive People Greed does not work as a life strategy for most highly sensitive people. Part of the reason is…

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Respect is something we all want. Even HSPs. Why is it so elusive? Why Respect Is Important Respect is so important for our well-being that we feel our positive energy grow when around it and we feel our energy become depleted when we are disrespected. For highly sensitive people, the issue of being respected is particularly acute…

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