Why Conformity Is About Group Norms

Have you ever thought one thing and done another? Have you ever changed your mind when in a group that had different ideas? I know I have and it made me feel like a wimp. Being an HSP means that my positions are not the norm, and I am always seeking ways to bridge the…

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Overcoming The Need To Please

Highly sensitive people have many ways of handling their nature and the overwhelm that they experience. Being different means that relationships are often difficult for us. We often feel at a disadvantage in relationships feeling one down because we feel disrespected. There are many reasons for this. Our compassionate non-competitive natures seek mutuality in a…

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Are HSPs The Proverbial Canary In The Coal Mine?

In his book Thrive!, which discusses the gifts and challenges of highly sensitive people, Dr. Tracy M. Cooper talks about his research on the trait of sensory processing sensitivity. What interested me most were the stories and real-life experiences of fellow HSPs. They helped to draw a picture of how HSPs as a population might…

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The Othering Of The Highly Sensitive Person

Sensitive people are different. Being different means that they often live in the shadows. I thought about this today when I was reading an article about feminism in Great Britain, written by Anna Ford, a respected British journalist. What struck me about the article was her wonderful description of the devaluation and marginalization of women,…

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Are You Too Nice As An HSP?

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Some time back, I had a mini-interaction with someone pushy, an encounter that I, as an HSP, quite dread. This time, I paid attention to the dynamics of this initial conversation and thought about what that told me about the other person, instead of discounting it like I used to do in the past. As…

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Masking Our Intuitive Sensitivity

It’s two days before Halloween as my wife and I head to our favorite Italian restaurant in the city. Entering the foyer of the restaurant, I notice a message written on the chalkboard listing the night’s specials. In addition to mussels with plenty of garlic and Venetian zuppa de peoci soup, a psychic is also…

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Sensitive People’s Inverted Hierarchy Of Needs

A few months back, I attended a talk by Dave Markowitz, the author of Self-Care For The Self-Aware, in the events room of a metaphysical bookstore filled with highly sensitive people and empaths looking for insights and help. The energy in the room was electric. As it often happens when I attend a group event…

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The Mistake Of Identity

  Identity is an anchor in most of our lives. It is usually derived from a combination of our own experiences, our family and school feedback and our culture. Identities can feel wonderful if we have positive feedback or it can feel like a ball and chain if we do not. The more important question…

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Too Nice For Your Own Good As An HSP?

Sometimes, it can feel like we can’t even see the underlying problems that come with emotional patterns we play out as HSPs. It can feel like we are doing our best but then bashing our heads against the same problem over and over again. Maybe, as an HSP, our identity is too tightly woven with…

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When Conformity And Stewardship Collide

Do you ever feel that inner conflicts can’t be resolved? Does your desire to belong and be accepted conflict with other desires? Does your higher self ever feel left out? Conflicts About Conformity Conformity and stewardship: sometimes they work in harmony and other times they collide. All societies create structures and norms that define daily…

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