Posts Tagged ‘emotional intelligence’
HSPs And Developing Self-Compassion
Photo by Jess Bailey on Unsplash If you are someone like me, you know that are you are sensitive, and yet, you often struggle to integrate this knowledge in your life. If you are someone like me, you also have an incessant voice in your head that keeps on discounting the little onward steps that…
Read MoreWorking With The Energy Of Perception
” We need to spin you happy ” Danielle mentions as we walk along the tree lined path by the Mohawk river. I have always loved walking that path especially during those times when life was wearing me down. Like the bare trees around us which had dropped their leaves weeks before, my spirit felt stark and colorless. Unexpectedly, my…
Read MoreWhy Vulnerability Will Make You Successful
I am a writer who blogs about being a highly sensitive person. I sit in my writing chair with my Mac and various beverages strewn about me, and write. It is very cathartic. I write about my emotions, feelings, thoughts, struggles, eccentricities, questionable habits, phobias, and anxieties. It feels SO GOOD to get them out.…
Read MoreThe Illusion Of Answers
Recently I disappointed someone who was seeking answers from me. It raised an interesting introspection for me about the idea of answers and I think it bears discussing. Why Seek Answers? I remember when I was quite young – perhaps 6 – being at dinner with my family. At the time my brothers had small cars…
Read MoreDistinguishing Adventure And Danger
Fear is every present in our world whether we like it or not. I can come from a lot of places and can be very disruptive. Fear is big business. It can be difficult to distinguish what is a real fear and what is a manufactured fear, what is situational fear and what is conditioned…
Read MoreAn Invitation To Intuition
One day, some years back, someone very close to me said in words close to these: You are not very intuitive. I wasn’t ? That came as a complete surprise to me. Is that what she thought? That was completely opposite to how I thought of myself. I thought I was, in fact, very intuitive.…
Read MoreAre HSPs The Proverbial Canary In The Coal Mine?
In his book Thrive!, which discusses the gifts and challenges of highly sensitive people, Dr. Tracy M. Cooper talks about his research on the trait of sensory processing sensitivity. What interested me most were the stories and real-life experiences of fellow HSPs. They helped to draw a picture of how HSPs as a population might…
Read MoreStuck In The Spider Web Of Approval?
I like getting approval. I suspect we all do. Yet I hate wanting or needing it. I hate all the games that go with approval: the withholding of it – treating it like it is a prize or a weapon. the distortion of information to manipulate approval the overvaluation of approval when we are really…
Read MoreAre You Too Nice As An HSP?
Some time back, I had a mini-interaction with someone pushy, an encounter that I, as an HSP, quite dread. This time, I paid attention to the dynamics of this initial conversation and thought about what that told me about the other person, instead of discounting it like I used to do in the past. As…
Read MoreToo Nice For Your Own Good As An HSP?
Sometimes, it can feel like we can’t even see the underlying problems that come with emotional patterns we play out as HSPs. It can feel like we are doing our best but then bashing our heads against the same problem over and over again. Maybe, as an HSP, our identity is too tightly woven with…
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