Those Pesky Boundaries

Photo by Fabien Bazanegue on Unsplash Fuzzy boundaries? Boundaries are one of the biggest challenges facing highly sensitive people. They can be a source of aggravation and unhappiness. There are many reason why boundary issues are a problem for us, some having to do with us and others having to do with the world. It…

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Are You Numbing Your Sensitivity?

Photo by Gabriel on Unsplash Are your numbing your sensitivity? I do sometimes. As I stood in line waiting to order my cup of coffee, I reached for my phone in my purse. You know, just in case there were any new updates within the last 5 minutes since the last time I checked it.…

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Tips For The Urban HSP

I am an urban HSP.  I sometimes think I must be truly nuts to be living in New York City, a place that seems like the very embodiment of the word “overstimulation.” Crowded, loud, bright and always on, it can be a nightmare for the senses of an urban HSP. If you let it. I’ve…

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What is an Empath Exactly?

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As someone who started identifying with the word empath some years ago, I have thought lately of how it is simply a catch-all term for different kinds of sensitivities. All people who use the word empath for themselves do not have their empathic antennas out in exactly the same way. They are not exactly like…

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Why You Can Afford To Lose Control

Does losing control scare you? Do you see not having control as a weakness? Do you receive criticism and negative feedback when you make a mistake and are “out-of-control? What Is Control? Given how much attention and pain are associated with control, what is it exactly? According to The Free Dictionary, control is the ability…

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Overcoming The Need To Please

Highly sensitive people have many ways of handling their nature and the overwhelm that they experience. Being different means that relationships are often difficult for us. We often feel at a disadvantage in relationships feeling one down because we feel disrespected. There are many reasons for this. Our compassionate non-competitive natures seek mutuality in a…

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Life as an Emotional Empath

Last year, I went to India after two years of living here in the United States. This is the first time that I have stayed anywhere other than in India, and this shift of living in a new country has also shifted my perspective in many ways. One of these is the way in which…

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No Need To Rush: The Special Gift Of Slow

I have always been expected to operate at lightning speed. And it has never worked for me. I need to process…and process…and process… I LOVE to process. It is my idea of a good time! What’s The Rush! I have never understood the need to rush. In my experience, the easiest way to have problems…

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Can Contempt Be Cured?

Underneath all of the pain in the world is a fundamental mistake: the mistake of contempt. What Is Contempt? Contempt is an ugly feeling.  According to the Free Dictionary, contempt is: 1. The feeling or attitude of regarding someone or something as inferior, base, or worthless; scorn. 2. The state of being despised or dishonored:…

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