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Like other HSPs, I have often given too much to the wrong people a time too many. Giving the benefit of the doubt and then regretting has been a pattern with me for years. But in the last several years, I have consciously worked through many faulty beliefs about my responsibility and drawn more sketched-out…

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Does it ever seem relentless? The complaining? The criticism? The attacking? Do you ever feel like throwing your hands up in despair? Do you ever feel like giving up? To be honest, there have been times when I have felt that way. Well, I am here to tell you: DON’T DESPAIR! I am here to tell you…

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What is it about insecurity that makes us so uncomfortable? Why do most of us pretend we don’t have insecurities, or even worse, suppress them? While it is common to deny insecurity, we must be aware of the drastic consequences of doing so. The very act of pushing something down automatically creates resistance. It takes…

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Generosity is something we all want and often struggle with. Why is that? Ambivalence About Generosity We tend to respond to generosity with warmth, happiness and joy. We also naturally respond to stinginess with repulsion, hurt and fear. Of course negative experiences can cause us to have more complicated feelings. However we need to function…

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So many defenses. I feel like my life is often about bumping into defenses of one kind or another. Dealing with defenses feels like walking through a field of hay.  With each step you meet  a new stalk(defense) that obscures your vision and parts as you walk only to reveal a new defense. Often the defenses…

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What is the secret of life? Is there a secret to life? Why Do So Many Things Go Wrong? I wondered when I was a child why so many things seemed to go wrong and why so many people were unhappy. It did not make sense to me. I assumed that most people want to…

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Most of us muddle along every day in spite of whatever unfairness and negativity that we encounter. It chips away at our enthusiasm and spirits but we soldier on. Except sometimes – like on November 6, 2012. What Changed On November 6? The election on November 6 in the United States was an important one, perhaps…

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We all know the misery mind well. It gets into everything. It has a million tentacles that grasp at everyone and everything. It does not stop. It is an endless litany.  If we could harness the energy of this mind we could probably power the world. The misery mind thinks it is operating from facts…

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