Posts Tagged ‘relationships’
Creating Harmony: When Not To Try And Make It Work
I like harmony. I suspect that many HSPs do. Harmony to me is important because at its best it tells us that we are making effective choices. At its worst, we are keeping a destructive peace. Which is operating in your life? Why Is Harmony So Elusive? I have often wondered why harmony is so…
Read MoreSocial Habits And Sensitive People: The Four Tendencies
Once in a while, we come across concepts that are game changers for us as HSPs. This month, I would like to share something that has helped me in my own journey as an artistic HSP and might help you too. It comes from the work of New York Times bestselling author Gretchen Rubin, The…
Read MoreThe Social Challenge Of Highly Sensitive People
Highly sensitive people can be independent and able to be alone. However, that does not mean that we necessarily are happy and comfortable with it. Recently I have been asking myself why being alone is considered, “bad” or a sign of a problem. Do I need to be herded into a group, an identity, or…
Read MoreStuck In The Spider Web Of Approval?
I like getting approval. I suspect we all do. Yet I hate wanting or needing it. I hate all the games that go with approval: the withholding of it – treating it like it is a prize or a weapon. the distortion of information to manipulate approval the overvaluation of approval when we are really…
Read MoreMasking Our Intuitive Sensitivity
It’s two days before Halloween as my wife and I head to our favorite Italian restaurant in the city. Entering the foyer of the restaurant, I notice a message written on the chalkboard listing the night’s specials. In addition to mussels with plenty of garlic and Venetian zuppa de peoci soup, a psychic is also…
Read More5 Ways HSPs Can Minimize Social Anxieties
For highly sensitive people, social anxieties are an especially serious problem because HSPs are different and because their values, perceptions, and experiences often do not mirror the Western competitive model. You know how it feels when you have a social event to attend and your social anxieties start to rise. HSPs are likely to feel…
Read MoreThe Secret Of Letting Go
What is the secret of letting go? From the time we are born, we are introduced to the reality that we cannot survive without others. Our dependency creates a mandatory attachment to our relationships with others. We are inevitably committed to our first social group when we are young without the wisdom or awareness of what we…
Read MoreWhy You Can Afford To Lose Control
Does losing control scare you? Do you see not having control as a weakness? Do you receive criticism and negative feedback when you make a mistake and are “out-of-control? What Is Control? Given how much attention and pain are associated with control, what is it exactly? According to The Free Dictionary, control is the ability…
Read MoreIn Search Of A Real Conversation
I like a real conversation. I do not like a faux conversation. I do not like pretend conversations. I do not like manipulative conversations. It can be quiet around me. What Is A Real Conversation, Anyway? It probably sounds silly and perhaps a little whiney – but what is a real conversation? It may be…
Read MoreThose Pesky Boundaries
Fuzzy boundaries? Boundaries are one of the biggest challenges facing highly sensitive people. They can be a source of aggravation and unhappiness. There are many reason why boundary issues are a problem for us, some having to do with us and others having to do with the world. It would help if we could get…
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