Why do people demonize each other? During the difficult times we are living in, not just because of COVID-19 but also because we are going through necessary and long avoided change, people are projecting their pain and fears onto each other. We humans have long been challenged by our vulnerabilities, real and imagined. Fear is…

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Does losing control scare you? Do you see not having control as a weakness? Do you receive criticism and negative feedback when you make a mistake and are “out-of-control? What Is Control? Given how much attention and pain are associated with control, what is it exactly? According to The Free Dictionary, control is the ability…

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Highly sensitive people have many ways of handling their nature and the overwhelm that they experience. Being different means that relationships are often difficult for us. We often feel at a disadvantage in relationships feeling one down because we feel disrespected. There are many reasons for this. Our compassionate non-competitive natures seek mutuality in a…

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Much has been written about criticism and the inner critic. So why another article? It seems to me that we take criticism for granted as an OK thing to do. Perhaps it is our consumer culture run amok. Isn’t complaining how you get something done? Maybe to some but I think we need a rethink…

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canary in the coal mine

In his book Thrive!, which discusses the gifts and challenges of highly sensitive people, Dr. Tracy M. Cooper talks about his research on the trait of sensory processing sensitivity. What interested me most were the stories and real-life experiences of fellow HSPs. They helped to draw a picture of how HSPs as a population might…

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Do you avoid relationships because of emotional games? Do people think your sensitivity is just an emotional game? If that is the case you are not alone. Emotions And Social Games Are Not The Same Many people are afraid of their emotions. They are afraid of how they will be treated because of them. Emotions are…

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I like getting approval. I suspect we all do. Yet I hate wanting or needing it. I hate all the games that go with approval: the withholding of it – treating it like it is a prize or a weapon. the distortion of information to manipulate approval the overvaluation of approval when we are really…

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It’s two days before Halloween as my wife and I head to our favorite Italian restaurant in the city. Entering the foyer of the restaurant, I notice a message written on the chalkboard listing the night’s specials. In addition to mussels with plenty of garlic and Venetian zuppa de peoci soup, a psychic is also…

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Haven’t we all met the person who never gets over it?  The person with a grudge for everyone else to pay their whole life?  The person who is always pulling teeth to get their way? For thousands of years, human beings have been invested in a vengeful and controlling way of life, with seriously painful…

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