Posts Tagged ‘relationships’
Are HSPs The Proverbial Canary In The Coal Mine?
In his book Thrive!, which discusses the gifts and challenges of highly sensitive people, Dr. Tracy M. Cooper talks about his research on the trait of sensory processing sensitivity. What interested me most were the stories and real-life experiences of fellow HSPs. They helped to draw a picture of how HSPs as a population might…
Read MoreHow Emotional Games Harm Sensitive People
Do you avoid relationships because of emotional games? Do people think your sensitivity is just an emotional game? If that is the case you are not alone. Emotions And Social Games Are Not The Same Many people are afraid of their emotions. They are afraid of how they will be treated because of them. Emotions are…
Read MoreSocial Habits And Sensitive People: The Four Tendencies
Once in a while, we come across concepts that are game changers for us as HSPs. This month, I would like to share something that has helped me in my own journey as an artistic HSP and might help you too. It comes from the work of New York Times bestselling author Gretchen Rubin, The…
Read MoreStuck In The Spider Web Of Approval?
I like getting approval. I suspect we all do. Yet I hate wanting or needing it. I hate all the games that go with approval: the withholding of it – treating it like it is a prize or a weapon. the distortion of information to manipulate approval the overvaluation of approval when we are really…
Read MoreMasking Our Intuitive Sensitivity
It’s two days before Halloween as my wife and I head to our favorite Italian restaurant in the city. Entering the foyer of the restaurant, I notice a message written on the chalkboard listing the night’s specials. In addition to mussels with plenty of garlic and Venetian zuppa de peoci soup, a psychic is also…
Read MoreBenefits Of Letting Go
Haven’t we all met the person who never gets over it? The person with a grudge for everyone else to pay their whole life? The person who is always pulling teeth to get their way? For thousands of years, human beings have been invested in a vengeful and controlling way of life, with seriously painful…
Read MoreAn Easy Way To Handle Differences
Do you have difficulty handling differences? All of us do to a degree. For highly sensitive people, however, differences can seem dangerous because we have usually experienced so much invalidation that we can become afraid of differences. I know I have. So what can we do? Why Differences Become A Problem Differences become a problem…
Read MoreEmbrace Respect: It’s Good For Your Health
Respect is something we all want. Even HSPs. Why is it so elusive? Why Respect Is Important Respect is so important for our well-being that we feel our positive energy grow when around it and we feel our energy become depleted when we are disrespected. For highly sensitive people, the issue of being respected is particularly acute…
Read More5 Ways HSPs Can Minimize Social Anxieties
For highly sensitive people, social anxieties are an especially serious problem because HSPs are different and because their values, perceptions, and experiences often do not mirror the Western competitive model. You know how it feels when you have a social event to attend and your social anxieties start to rise. HSPs are likely to feel…
Read MoreThe Secret Of Letting Go
What is the secret of letting go? From the time we are born, we are introduced to the reality that we cannot survive without others. Our dependency creates a mandatory attachment to our relationships with others. We are inevitably committed to our first social group when we are young without the wisdom or awareness of what we…
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