Fuzzy boundaries? Boundaries are one of the biggest challenges facing highly sensitive people. They can be a source of aggravation and unhappiness. There are many reason why boundary issues are a problem for us, some having to do with us and others having to do with the world. It would help if we could get…

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I like a real conversation. I do not like a faux conversation. I do not like pretend conversations. I do not like manipulative conversations. It can be quiet around me. What Is A Real Conversation, Anyway? It probably sounds silly and perhaps a little whiney – but what is a real conversation? It may be…

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Do you have difficulty handling differences? All of us do to a degree. For highly sensitive people, however, differences can seem dangerous because we have usually experienced so much invalidation that we can become afraid of differences. I know I have. So what can we do? Why Differences Become A Problem Differences become a problem…

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Learning to stop absorbing other people’s energies could be the biggest challenge facing highly sensitive people and empaths. We easily feel what other people feel, whether it is a family member, the grocery store clerk, a co-worker, or a stranger. Going through our day to day life requires a certain awareness in order to distinguish…

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Respect is something we all want. Even HSPs. Why is it so elusive? Why Respect Is Important Respect is so important for our well-being that we feel our positive energy grow when around it and we feel our energy become depleted when we are disrespected. For highly sensitive people, the issue of being respected is particularly acute…

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For highly sensitive people, social anxieties are an especially serious problem because HSPs are different and because their values, perceptions, and experiences often do not mirror the Western competitive model. You know how it feels when you have a social event to attend and your social anxieties start to rise. HSPs are likely to feel…

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What is the secret of letting go? From the time we are born, we are introduced to the reality that we cannot survive without others. Our dependency creates a mandatory attachment to our relationships with others. We are inevitably committed to our first social group when we are young without the wisdom or awareness of what we…

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Does losing control scare you? Do you see not having control as a weakness? Do you receive criticism and negative feedback when you make a mistake and are “out-of-control? What Is Control? Given how much attention and pain are associated with control, what is it exactly? According to The Free Dictionary, control is the ability…

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Does it ever seem relentless? The complaining? The criticism? The attacking? Do you ever feel like throwing your hands up in despair? Do you ever feel like giving up? To be honest, there have been times when I have felt that way. Well, I am here to tell you: DON’T DESPAIR! I am here to tell you…

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Why do people demonize each other? People increasingly recognize that demonizing others is a problem. However, our ancestors may not have had the same perspective. Here are some of the reasons our forbears demonized: survival. This is the oldest reason. Our ancestors did not have all the mechanisms for survival that we have, so demonizing others…

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