Posts Tagged ‘self compassion’
Finding The Nurturing Sensitive Person Within
Five years ago, I moved from India to the United States as a trailing spouse. It was soon after that I read Dr. Elaine Aron’s book, The Highly Sensitive Person. The book felt familiar, and yet new, giving me a context for the “too sensitive” label that had followed me since childhood. Now, I was…
Read MoreThe Gift Of Compassion From Sensitive People
I’ll be the first to admit I don’t always handle doctor’s office visits well especially with procedures involving unexpected pain. All too often, there is a sudden cold sweat followed by nausea and lightheadedness signaling I’m getting ready to faint. For the Highly Sensitive, fainting can be our ingrained response to the invasiveness of modern medicine followed by the emotional recognition of…
Read MoreThe Importance Of Uselessness
Photo by Jonathan Fink on Unsplash Being useless feels awful. Being useful feels good, doesn’t it? It is nice to feel valued and know we are valued. It helps us to feel secure. It also means we are supported by others and that we are welcome in the world. Is There A Stigma For Uselessness?…
Read MoreHow Tolerance Makes Us Smarter
I was reading an article recently that discussed how many people want what they want but have little curiosity about how what they want is created. Although that is a huge generalization, it made we wonder about some of the costs to ourselves of our fast, highly mechanized society. The High Cost Of Machines I…
Read MoreThe Dark Side Of Self Sacrifice: How It Affects Your Health
Sacrifice took root in human society centuries ago in our earliest days. Self sacrifice did as well. Our early ancestors used sacrifice to make offerings to the gods as a form of protection against forces that were unpredictable, that they did not understand and that they could not control. Consider it an early form of…
Read MoreWhy Emotional Pain Should Be Public Business
We have so many examples of mishandled pain. How are we going to address the problem? When are we going to ask, why is this occurring and what we can do about it? News about people shooting each other is so common now that many times it seems just part of the human landscape. Often what…
Read MoreSocial Habits And Sensitive People: The Four Tendencies
Once in a while, we come across concepts that are game changers for us as HSPs. This month, I would like to share something that has helped me in my own journey as an artistic HSP and might help you too. It comes from the work of New York Times bestselling author Gretchen Rubin, The…
Read MoreAre You Too Nice As An HSP?
Some time back, I had a mini-interaction with someone pushy, an encounter that I, as an HSP, quite dread. This time, I paid attention to the dynamics of this initial conversation and thought about what that told me about the other person, instead of discounting it like I used to do in the past. As…
Read MoreBreaking The Failure Taboo
Failure is something that many of us if not all of us have been taught to be afraid of. Unfortunately, failure is a big subject and perceptions about failure are not necessarily innocent. Fear of failure causes so many people to hide and makes them afraid to be themselves. What a loss! Why Failure Is…
Read MoreToo Nice For Your Own Good As An HSP?
Sometimes, it can feel like we can’t even see the underlying problems that come with emotional patterns we play out as HSPs. It can feel like we are doing our best but then bashing our heads against the same problem over and over again. Maybe, as an HSP, our identity is too tightly woven with…
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