Failure is something that many of us if not all of us have been taught to be afraid of. Unfortunately, failure is a big subject and perceptions about failure are not necessarily innocent. Fear of failure causes so many people to hide and makes them afraid to be themselves. What a loss! Why Failure Is…

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A few months back, I attended a talk by Dave Markowitz, the author of Self-Care For The Self-Aware, in the events room of a metaphysical bookstore filled with highly sensitive people and empaths looking for insights and help. The energy in the room was electric. As it often happens when I attend a group event…

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Underneath all of the pain in the world is a fundamental mistake: the mistake of contempt. What Is Contempt? Contempt is an ugly feeling.  According to the Free Dictionary, contempt is: 1. The feeling or attitude of regarding someone or something as inferior, base, or worthless; scorn. 2. The state of being despised or dishonored:…

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Negativity is not what you think. Negativity is often thought to be a personal character trait. There is some truth to that but it is so much more. What Is Negativity? According to the Your Dictionary, negativity,  at least in a social or decision making sense, is defined as follows: a word, affix, phrase, etc.…

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I’ll be the first to admit I don’t always handle doctor’s office visits well especially with procedures involving unexpected pain. All too often, there is a sudden cold sweat followed by nausea and lightheadedness signaling I’m getting ready to faint. For the Highly Sensitive, fainting can be our ingrained response to the invasiveness of  modern medicine followed by the emotional recognition of…

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Sometimes, it can feel like we can’t even see the underlying problems that come with emotional patterns we play out as HSPs. It can feel like we are doing our best but then bashing our heads against the same problem over and over again. Maybe, as an HSP, our identity is too tightly woven with…

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Being a sensitive person means that you come into contact with the illusion of autonomy all the time. For a long time human culture – especially Western culture – has promoted autonomy as an important goal for individuals and societies. The goal of autonomy has been a social answer to the issues created by the…

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Being in one’s comfort zone or not seems to be a marker of all sorts of wonderful traits including creativity and progressiveness. I can even be a path to success and wealth! I consider myself a creative person. However, I find many ideas about comfort zones, and getting out of them, to have very little…

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Why is self-care so hard?  Whenever I see a sleeping cat, I am struck by how unconflicted they are about living each moment, about being here and their deservingness. Receiving simply is not an issue for them. Humans make the whole business of receiving about power.  So receiving inevitably comes with some sort of baggage…

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