I’ll be the first to admit I don’t always handle doctor’s office visits well especially with procedures involving unexpected pain. All too often, there is a sudden cold sweat followed by nausea and lightheadedness signaling I’m getting ready to faint. For the Highly Sensitive, fainting can be our ingrained response to the invasiveness of  modern medicine followed by the emotional recognition of…

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Sometimes, it can feel like we can’t even see the underlying problems that come with emotional patterns we play out as HSPs. It can feel like we are doing our best but then bashing our heads against the same problem over and over again. Maybe, as an HSP, our identity is too tightly woven with…

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Being a sensitive person means that you come into contact with the illusion of autonomy all the time. For a long time human culture – especially Western culture – has promoted autonomy as an important goal for individuals and societies. The goal of autonomy has been a social answer to the issues created by the…

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Being in one’s comfort zone or not seems to be a marker of all sorts of wonderful traits including creativity and progressiveness. I can even be a path to success and wealth! I consider myself a creative person. However, I find many ideas about comfort zones, and getting out of them, to have very little…

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Why is self-care so hard?  Whenever I see a sleeping cat, I am struck by how unconflicted they are about living each moment, about being here and their deservingness. Receiving simply is not an issue for them. Humans make the whole business of receiving about power.  So receiving inevitably comes with some sort of baggage…

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Sacrifice took root in human society centuries ago in our earliest days. Self sacrifice did as well. Our early ancestors used sacrifice to make offerings to the gods as a form of protection against forces that were unpredictable, that they did not understand and that they could not control. Consider it an early form of…

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You know the drill.  You are sensitive and therefore it is assumed that you are unstable. And so you get marginalized. After all, sensitivity means you are not tough enough. It means you are unreliable. NOT SO! Researchers at the University of Toronto Scarborough discovered a link between sensitivity and self-discipline in their study about meditation. The…

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Inner peace improves creativity. Based on my experience as a creative person, inner peace takes us to a different place that improves our ability to come up with fresh ideas. Brainstorming Is Not Creativity I have nothing against brainstorming – either by yourself or with others. But here’s the thing: brainstorming is often about what…

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Failure is something that many of us if not all of us have been taught to be afraid of. Unfortunately, failure is a big subject and perceptions about failure are not necessarily innocent. Fear of failure causes so many people to hide and makes them afraid to be themselves. What a loss! Why Failure Is…

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