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Why Vulnerability Will Make You Successful

I am a writer who blogs about being a highly sensitive person. I sit in my writing chair with my Mac and various beverages strewn about me, and write. It is very cathartic. I write about my emotions, feelings, thoughts, struggles, eccentricities, questionable habits, phobias, and anxieties. It feels SO GOOD to get them out. I finish my pieces and edit them for publication. I get ready to release them to the world. Then, as easily as they came, those cathartic feelings soon dwindle down to just traces and splatterings that quickly get absorbed by…

Vulnerability

What a word.

It doesn’t look nice.

It doesn’t sound nice.

It sure doesn’t feel nice.

However unappealing the word is, vulnerability and I have been getting a lot closer lately. It’s not something I set out to do, like a new year’s resolution:

  1. Make wise food choices.
  2. Unplug as a family and spend more quality time together.
  3. Feel vulnerable, exposed, and uncomfortable every day.

I can’t help it, this feeling. It’s an icky, lingering emotion sitting right under the surface.

All the time.

I have been working on my craft lately, studying the art of writing and what skills make up a great writer. There is a lot of really valuable information out there on the subject. Many experts and influencers share their different theories and thoughts about what it takes to create content that resonates with readers. I have researched the topic long enough now to see a common thread running through all their advice. The ability to be vulnerable is what sets you apart.

“Vulnerable is the only way we can feel when we truly share the art we’ve made. When we share it, when we connect, we have shifted all the power and made ourselves naked in front of the person we’ve given the gift of our art to.” – Seth Godin

Vulnerability And Trust

Vulnerability is what makes you believable. It’s what builds trust between you and someone else. When a writer lays everything out on the table, exposing the deepest parts of themselves, the reader begins to feel a sense of honesty and authenticity. They start to trust that you are telling your truth. But…

Feeling vulnerable sucks. Really sucks.

It feels uncomfortable. Raw. Exposed.

It pulls me WAY out of my comfort zone, and into a place of fear. It’s one thing to write for myself. But when I send all of my weaknesses, struggles, and confessions out into the world, I am letting strangers see the deepest parts of me. It feels like rejection waiting to happen.

Reader #1: “Wow, this one is a real nut job.”

Reader #2: “There is no way I would put this stuff out there, and neither should she.”

Reader #3: “Uh…no thanks. I would rather read about plumbing.”

It comes down to this. Writers don’t write to be read. They write because they have a message. And as uncomfortable as vulnerability is, it’s worth it in the end. As long as I am allowing vulnerability to flow through my creative process, I will always be able to connect with my audience. Though my fears of rejection are real, I know that the “stories” I make up in my head about how others will receive me, are not real.

Being vulnerable is appealing to others.

Think about it. When someone has opened up to you about something very personal, you probably didn’t tell them to stop talking and walk away. It most likely made you feel closer to them. Maybe you felt some empathy, or maybe, it compelled you to open up and share something about yourself. You see,

Vulnerability Encourages Connection

It feels inclusive. It makes other people feel like they can relate to you. It exposes messy truths which everyone likes, because everyone has messy truths. It makes us feel normal.

“The Magic Is The Mess.”-Brene Brown

As a writer, being vulnerable is beneficial to me. It allows me to build a trusting and authentic relationship with my audience. But are there any other times when being vulnerable is beneficial? If you are Brene Brown, the answer would be…

Always.

Brene Brown is a leading researcher and influencer on the subject of vulnerability. She is most known for her popular TED talks series. Brown encourages us to embrace our authentic selves. She believes owning who we really are, and letting go of who we think we should be, is the only way to truly be happy. Brown wrote the book, Daring Greatly: How the Courage to Be Vulnerable Transforms the Way We Live, Love, Parent, and Lead. Her massive success is an indication that we are ready to start changing the way we perceive the world, and ourselves.

Whether you are Seth Godin, Brene Brown, a writer, a CEO, a plumber or a monk, it doesn’t matter.

Vulnerability And Success

Vulnerability will make you successful.

It opens the door for a myriad of opportunities to connect. To grow. To evolve, To conquer. It invites success in love, compassion, fortune, happiness, and freedom. Even more, it invites you to just be…you.

How good does that feel?

About Nicole Taffs

My name is Nicole Taffs and I am a highly sensitive person. I started TheSensitiveLife blog because I felt a deep need to share the knowledge that I have acquired and studied over the years. As my knowledge of sensitivity grew, so did my abilities and confidence. I began to see and experience all the positives that come from being highly sensitive. I want to share my struggles as well as my knowledge on how to turn our sensitivities into advantages. I am also certified in holistic nutrition, reflexology and reiki. TheSensitiveLife Twitter

8 Comments

  1. Esther on July 9, 2018 at 7:12 am

    It sounds good but my experiences been that I shared my vulnerability with insensitive people who would just runaway from me and do not want to speak about deep issues anymore, including family father and sisters. Well , I know that sharing deep experiences in a nice way with the correct alike sensitive people must work . But also feel that it starts working when I have been able to consciously understand and control every aspect of this high sensitivity. I used to be burnt out and feel different and not accepted and labelled as a weak person though I feel a strong and very profound comprehensiveness inside of me. Well thank you for sharing your experience it has helped me not to feel so lonely on this. Thank you



    • Maria Hill on July 9, 2018 at 7:19 am

      Thanks, Esther for your insights. I agree with you that sharing your vulnerability with people who are insensitive can be counterproductive. You can also invite vulnerability into your life to inform your choices. I think of it as including the voice of the unknown which requires vulnerability – and I generally do not share that because most people do not understand.

      All the best,
      Maria



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