Why is self-care so hard? Whenever I see a sleeping cat, I am struck by how unconflicted they are about living each moment, about being here and their deservingness. Receiving simply is not an issue for them.
Humans make the whole business of receiving about power. So receiving inevitably comes with some sort of baggage about favoritism, haves, and have-nots, about identity and identity politics. Receiving is about effort: the effort to be in the right place at the right time, the effort to make sure you know the right people, say the right thing and wear the right clothes. It’s about the effort to anticipate the future, the effort to escape the past, the effort to be seen, the effort to be relevant, the effort to get into the right school and get the right grades, the effort to get your “look” “right”, to have enough, be enough, care enough, and so it goes on and on.
Cats luxuriate in the energy or prana of the universe. Of course, they are at home in it, they couldn’t imagine otherwise. It’s natural to them. We humans, on the other hand, are always grabbing at the energy in ourselves and others like we are starving. We have to work it rather than be in it. We are outsiders in our own world.
Cats act as if the world is a nourishing place. Humans seem to be in a nourishment optional place. We can expect nourishment if we are a certain way, think certain thoughts and do certain things. Too often we feel and act malnourished because usually, we are. When we are working so hard there is little time left for self-care.
When we have to claw our way into membership in the human race, there is little energy left for simply breathing and luxuriating in our magnificent world. Personally, I think it is time to drop effort and go for joyful luxuriating like my cat knows how to do. If she is giving lessons I am ready. But before we do that I think I will simply join her on the couch for a luxurious nap.